<p>Is it pretentious to do so?</p>
<p>Being grammatically correct is pretentious? Wow…</p>
<p>Well, since so few people know how to use it properly, I feel like it might be considered pretentious to use it. It gives me that “holier than thou” vibe.</p>
<p>It’s almost like being a spelling/grammar nazi without ever correcting anyone.</p>
<p>Though I may just be totally off my rocker.</p>
<p>its pretentious. dont do it</p>
<p>It would sound pretentious. Even more so, if you talk with a snobby American or British accent, and listen to classical music and drink tea with milk.</p>
<p>Oh, if that^ is true, I must start using whom, if I don’t already.</p>
<p>i don’t use it in conversation but i did in a paper my mom proofread and she thought i copied the sentence from wiki or something… lol.</p>
<p>^^ But you do, don’t you?! :P</p>
<p>^To whom are you referring?</p>
<p>What if you have a New Zealand accent and am fond of irony?
Pretentious then?</p>
<p>The only times when I use “whom” in speaking are when I have a preposition immediately in front of the word. For example:</p>
<p>The person in whom I have great confidence.</p>
<p>But:</p>
<p>The person who I have great confidence in.</p>
<p>In writing, I almost always observe the rules for grammatical case.</p>
<p>If it’s pretentious, so be it. Better pretentious than stupid.</p>
<p>indeed. That’s why I cite people from ArtOfMind_21 to Zoroaster in my daily conversations</p>
<p>and it’s not that hard. Just be sure to use it after any preposition and you’re most of the way there.</p>
<p>I always use “whom” in conversation when it’s appropriate. I also don’t mispronounce “pronunciation” just because most of the population does it. It’s not pretentious, it’s just correct.</p>
<p>I use it after prepositions in conversation. It just kind of happens. I don’t intend it. Just one of those things.</p>
<p>I think its okay to use who/whom when writing something important. But, in an everyday conversation it would sound kind of awkward.</p>
<p>It’s even more fun to correct people who use “who” instead of “whom” than to use it correctly yourself.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s a big deal. I always do.lol.</p>
<p>There is no reason for whom to still exist in our language, except that it increases the value of English professors’ services.</p>
<p>^ And your basis for that is…?</p>