Valentine's gift

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It seems valentine day is around the corner. What is your plan for it? Just eat out at a good restaurant, or buy a gift for your SO?

While I was browsing on the Internet, I bumped into this. If it is true, it is really “crazy”:

anyways, today my roommate got the most incredible package that makes you awe, yet at the same time pity for the naiive girl who put all the effort into the gifts.

he got a big box (around the size of a box that can hold a average size tv) FILLED with yummy candy/chips. Randomly mixed in were mini heart cards with messages/chocolate.

Next was 2 posters made by his girlfriend’s friends. They all wrote starshaped notes and it was decorated like crazy. must’ve been at least 40 stars.

Next was a huge collection of letters his girlfriend wrote to him every day - 100 letters.

then 6 different cards. each of them decorated as well, if not better, than professional cards. it was popup style with every single word cut out perfectly.

last but not least, he received a ’ ring’.

He has been dating this girlfriend for only a little bit more than 3 months!

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My husband and I have a reservation at a restaurant that we enjoy that has an annual Valentine’s day menu. It is many courses of well done foods served at a leisurely pace.

Funny enough, our daughter’s birthday is Valentine’s day and for the past 18 years her birthday has taken precidence. We have sent a bunch of small gifts and cards to her for her day, and this will be our first Valentine’s day without her for 19 years. Kind of strange and wonderful at the same time.

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We won’t exchange gifts, go out to dinner (one of the worst nights of the year), or do anything else out of the ordinary. The holiday just doesn’t cause a blip on our radar.

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^same here. When the kids were home I used to buy them each a box of candy and I would get one for him, too. We never exchanged gifts or went out. We did when dating, but not now.

I had a friend who used to tell her husband what flowers she wanted and they would be delivered to work. What’s the point in that?

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No flowers here. Probably a nice dinner just here at home, and cards.

6

We usually go out to dinner and also exchange cards. Thant’s it.

7

We exchange cards, I buy the kids and hubby candy and H usually sends me and D Winston flowers as part of a fundraising effort tied in with our local public radio station. I would never try to eat out on V day. I hate crowds and being rushed through dinner.

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We are going out on the 13th, to a nice restaurant, so we probably won’t go out the 14th. I stopped getting flowers when our Bengal kitten knocked them over a couple of times (along with many other breakable things). I will get my husband something small, and he will likely do the same. I may get chocolate covered strawberries like last year, but they were a lot to eat with just two of us here.

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We typically “celebrate” by buying discount candy on February 15th. I don’t care for boxes of chocolates (half of the flavors are gross) or cut flowers, and going on on Valentine’s is too much aggravation. Definitely a holiday I can do without.

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I’ll maybe make a good dessert cause it’s an excuse to do so - that would be about it w/H.

I do still like to buy a gift for my kids though! Love to give gifts, but not a good gift receiver. :slight_smile:

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DH always buys me roses. We exchange cards and I buy the kids some candy.

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DH gives me flowers and sometimes chocolates. I usually put on the red table cloth and cook something extra festive often pink like lobster or salmon.

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I am not a Valentine’s Day person, never have been. I think my SOs always found this to be a source of significant relief.

I usually just get my DH a card and Pecan Millionaires, his favorite candy. I tell him to just pick up a nice bottle of wine. We rarely go out, but I might make a nice dinner.

It would be fine with me if there was no such “holiday.” How we treat each other the other 364 days a year is far more important to me. Quite frankly, I always suspected Valentine’s Day was just invented by the greeting card and candy companies, and people feel obligated to go along so that their mates don’t get upset with them.

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Nothing here - a holiday that gets no attention.

15

We get each other a card. And only one rule: it must have a picture of a monkey on it.

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I never celebrate Valentine’s Day. Never have and never will.

Mr R will be at his brother’s bachelor party that weekend. I’ll have to make a mental note of when it is so that I make sure not to attempt to venture out to any restaurants that weekend.

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DH sends D and I a bouquet and he and I will go out for dinner - maybe not on the 14th though.

@mcat that internet Valentine’s story is over the top. The girl is not being smart - that guy will be running for the hills!

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We won’t exchange gifts, but will most likely eat out.
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Why? Would he feel too much pressure? Is she too attached, too clingy?

The background of that Internet story if it is true: They are not Americans who grew up here. The guy is an international student. He went back to his home country for a summer and met this girl. So they had really been together for one summer and then LDR. It was really not for Valentine’s day. It was for their “100 days” - I do not know the significance of the “100 days” celebration. Strange to me because it is just 100 days of dating – too short. I just “translate” their 100 days to our Valentine’s day due to their similarity: an event for a couple.

I do not know whether DS will do on Valentine’s day with his GF. But I think that if he does nothing, it will not go very well. (Just my gut feelings here.)

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@mcat2 for me that internet scenario would be “too much too soon” but I don’t know the particulars of their culture. Not sure here in the U.S. it is even common for young girls to give boys a ring.

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My birthday is the day before valentine’s day, so I’m pretty sure to get presents that serve double duty! This year DH is taking me to NYC to see American in Paris on Broadway. I’m super excited!