<p>I am currently a junior, but a friend of mine had his Princeton interview last week, and one question was very interesting. I’m not sure of the exact wording , but it was something like…</p>
<p>“Why do the people who dislike you feel that way…?”</p>
<p>My friend said that they thought he was arrogant. (Which is very accurate…sometimes)</p>
<p>I thought about my answer and I believe I would say either that I can be loud and obnoxious or that I don’t try for success, that things just come my way and I may not deserve them.</p>
<p>I’m severely shy to the point where I basically don’t speak to people unless they speak to me first. I’m better than I used to be, but I still find it almost impossible to make eye contact or offer compliments or start conversations. Sometimes people think it’s because I have a superiority complex, but it’s really because I’m scared of them.
I don’t always know the right thing to say or the appropriate social conventions for certain situations, so this can make me seem impolite.</p>
<p>I feel like this all would be pretty obvious to the person doing the interview, though. And if it wasn’t, the answer would look faked.</p>
<p>I also fish for compliments when given the opportunity. Which is really flipping annoying.</p>
<p>I think your answer about not trying for success and it just coming to you naturally would be a terrible answer because that sounds very stuck up… Just saying hahaha</p>
<p>I would probably say something on how people are sometimes uncomfortable when confronted with something out of the ordinary. Without getting to know me, I may seem somewhat obnoxious or just apathetic (depending on the scenario). Those who have an aversion to people who stand out in one way or another would definitely hate me. Those who enjoy the company of others who bring something new to the table are the ones who would love me. </p>
<p>Pretty much the only complaint (personality-wise) I hear about myself is how “weird” I am. Therefore, people who are afraid of unconventional diversity (most people think of race or religion when speaking of diversity, so I consider it unconventional in a way) are definitely the ones who hate me.</p>
<p>I kind of want to know what your friend’s answer was…</p>
<p>You know how Emersons “Self-Reliance” and Thoreau’s works point out how we should believe in ourselves? I’m very proud to be myself, and thus people get jealous i guess.</p>
<p>I can come off as extremely condescending when annoyed or tired (which is most of the time). I’m also very quiet, which may come off as aloof & snobbish, but that’s from more of a fear of people than anything else. I can seem heartless, but that’s because I haven’t worked out how to display my emotions without being overly emotional or downright stoic (I’d rather be stoic).</p>
<p>@nothingto1: That answer reminded me of that line from Mean Girls:</p>
<p>" I’m sorry that people are so jealous of me… but I can’t help it that I’m so popular.*"</p>
<p>Personally, I’m too quick to judge/ have low tolerance for others, and I guess when I have an idea about someone in my head, it’s hard for me to for a relationship with them.</p>
<p>I would probably say “Sometimes I need to be left alone just to process things and get everything together mentally, so I block the outside world out. In that process I end up blocking some people out who wanted my attention and that could cause some hostility.”</p>
<p>I’m extremely dominating in almost every situation (Ahaha, you guys know what I mean). I tend to set the pace of the class in most of my classes and in athletics often control my team’s flow. Sometimes, I admit, I can come off as cocky or arrogant. But, I do have the respect of my classmates and teammates.</p>
<p>I have a pretty low tolerance if people don’t know something and I can get mad if someone asks a completely ridiculous question or if they don’t catch on fast enough to something.</p>
<p>I also probably come off as too self-confident/cocky/arrogant, and I probably am sometimes.</p>
<p>Wow this is a tough question… To be honest, the only people I know of who don’t like me, don’t like me because of some boy-related situation where I dated a guy they liked without knowing they liked him (oops??). But I feel that would be an inappropriate response. I feel like people may dislike me because I’m “different” as a person earlier^ kind of said, “unconventionally diverse.” I’m quiet but loud, artsy but technical, perfectionist but carefree, I’m kind of every enigma you could imagine. I don’t fit into much of any stereotype and I think that bothers people. That may be my answer.</p>
<p>Good but difficult question. I hope this doesn’t sound the wrong way, but I honestly don’t know of any people who have ever blatantly disliked me. I’m REALLY mellow, pretty easy to get along with. If anything, maybe just the fact that I can be extremely quiet at times when I don’t feel like talking since I’m an introvert, so people might think I’m antisocial, rude, or unfriendly…which isn’t really the case.</p>
<p>haha I’ve been told by the people that don’t like me that I am very annoying and loud. They have also said that they don’t like my type of humor. I don’t know what that means, I don’t take it to heart. But I can be pretty loud which turns a lot of people off.</p>
<p>I think there are many good reasons why people may dislike me. Maybe they’re jealous of me, hehe. But more likely, its because I can change my personality 180 degrees really easy. One second I’ll be all cute and happy, and the next I’ll be competitive and grumpy like I just ate a bag of lemons or something. Another reason why people may dislike me is because I refuse to gossip about stuff (usually) and I make really weird faces :P</p>