<p>Harriet, I just realized that I suggested Rockets for the candy bribe. I’ve split much of my life between the U.S. and Canada and the candies I’m thinking of are called Rockets here in Canada, but Smarties in the U.S. Smarties here in Canada are similar to M&Ms, which we also have. 
I know, a little confusing and too much candy information! So, moral of the story is look for Smarties!</p>
<p>I vote for #1 (show them your NY style)
or #3 (royal blue sounds pretty)</p>
<h1>2 is out!!!</h1>
<p>I think all the outfits sound suitable and part of your choice should simply be what you just WANT to wear and don’t worry what others think. But if I had to choose, I likely would go with the third dress. I like the color. The style is good for the time of day and kinda works well with any sort of crowd. I think you could dress it up and make it less “plain” as you called it, by jewelry…earrings and necklace and bracelet and dressy shoes. </p>
<p>I also vote for gummy bears.</p>
<p>wear your New Yorky dress with pride and style! They’ll always classify you as the “New Yorkers” anyway (we know, we have close family in ruralized Minnesota and we’re always pointed out as the NY’ers at occasions) be comfortable.
S was a ring bearer at just about that age(between 6 and 7). If he’s going to be in a tux provided by the wedding party, make sure you get a good look/fit session with it ahead of time.And try to have him wear comfy shoes if possible, or at least bring a pair to change him into after the ceremony.Those patent shoes they provide are uncomfortable to say the least. A hand held device w/o sound and non staining/non sticky snacks sound like a good plan.Have some Advil/Tylenol/aspirin ready for yourself!!
Whatever you wear, have a great time!!</p>
<p>As the proud mother of so many formal-event-attending boys you’d faint if I told you, I recommend:</p>
<p>smarties (but they can make crunching sounds, not good during prayers and sermons)
gummy bears (pull out the red ones and green ones; they <em>do</em> melt when they are wet and hot and … ugh, but not as quickly as most candies)
for the avaricious set - pennies or nickels or dimes (everytime I catch you being good)
a new notepad and a 4-color pen if he’ll be sitting for any length of time</p>
<p>As far as dresses, I’d vote 2 or 3. Wedding photos are around forever, and you may want to be in something different.</p>
<p>I agree with your H about EF, and I think the DVF dress is probably to urban chic for this occasion. The JNY dress sounds like a classic, but I would wear comfortable shoes. Since the ring bearer is now twice as old as he was last time he had the job, perhaps a candy bribe is now beneath him?</p>
<p>When is a candy bribe beneath a boy of any age?</p>
<p>heck, I still use it on DH – and he’s in his 50’s…</p>
<p>Starbursts are a good choice- quiet and chewy, they don’t melt, and they last a while. Unwrap them ahead of time and put in plastic bag.</p>
<p>The blue dress sounds terrific. I wouldn’t overdo it with too much jewelery, though - but I like simple and classic. Great earrings and a pretty watch would be enough for me.</p>
<p>All sounds good except i’m concerned about the spiky heels, lunging after the ring-boy. Don’t sprain an ankle. Maybe a second pair of shoes for a lot of the time, and save the spikers for the pictures? </p>
<p>In addition to candy, what about putting a shiny toy in your handbag to flash at the kid, with the promise that at the end of the ceremony, if he stays calm and quiet, he gets the toy for the reception? Notice I said, “in addition to candy.” I might be idealistic but I’m not stupid.</p>
<p>Have fun. Are you bringing a bundt cake?</p>
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Forgot to weigh in on this all important issue: how about m&m’s in the bride’s colors? Am I the only one old enough to remember “Melts in your mouth, not in your hand”?</p>
<p>Don’t Forget the Windex!</p>
<p>My vote is for #3…but I say add a nice silk flower pin to it somewhere…unless of course you think you’llbe given a corsage!</p>
<p>M&M’s in the warm hands of a child equal multi colored hands! If he squeezes his hands together he will be able to get the chocolate to break through.</p>
<p>Back to the gummies, lifesavers have gummy lifesavers that can be used to put on your fingers like a ring, so you have a toy and a candy Just trying to give you the most bang for your bucks! Twizzlers or twizzler pieces would work well also.</p>
<p>I glanced at this thread when there was only one view showing, no replies. My first instinct was#1, but after reading the comments, I 'm leaning towards #3 based on the logic of wedding photos that stick around forever. I love these fun threads! I think they are the reason that I can’t break this addiction - began posting in 2005, but lurking since 2002! Have fun, Harriett and remember to report back after the fact. I’ve been missing some good wedding dish ever since Mollie tied the knot last fall.</p>
<p>Am I the only one rolling on the floor at this? Must be my atheist tendencies.
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<p>Reminds me of my D when she came home from her prospective student visit to the Catholic high school. “Mom,” she said, “It’s really nice but there are all these Jesuses on a stake.” ::eek::</p>
<p>Hope I’m not offending anyone here.</p>
<p>She attended said high school. And, four years of religion classes later, figured it out…</p>
<p>BTW I vote for 3. IMO I just want to be wallpaper at weddings, not stylish.</p>
<p>“Green Orthodox.” I thought this was a new religion, created in time for Earth Day and meant to bring together all believers in Environmentalism aka an Inconvenient Truth. </p>
<p>sorry, couldn’t resist. I vote for #3. You can glam it up with a scarf or jewelry.</p>
<p>Marite…hilarious!</p>
<p>Hi Harriet–they all sound lovely but #3 sounds like a nice, elegant fit for a wedding guest!</p>
<p>One thing — I always carry the big purse w/my 6 year old at events. Maybe over-prepared, but beyond treats, it’s stuffed with a small notebook, teeny pens or crayons, other little (quiet) games. For a big day, I’d even spring for one of those little crafty books where the kid uses a certain type of marker which reveals the picture (or something like that…you know?). </p>
<p>Not to be extreme, but I’d even keep a separate stash to have a different activity set for the reception. I’ve been at receptions where the rowdy boys ended up running the halls, doing the ‘big slide’ across the dance floor (perilously close to the bride). Maybe my son was one. :-)</p>
<p>I’ve since learned to be well-prepared w/my younger…</p>
<p>Enjoy!</p>
<p>Cute thread. My vote is for #3, for all the compelling reasons given. :)</p>
<p>As a church organist, I have seen some outfits in my time. The worst was an extremely lowcut, slinky, AND short dress worn by a friend of the bride who sat in the front row. The minister (whom I knew pretty well) said he had trouble concentrating on the service! :eek:</p>
<p>I’ve seen pre-teen boys play cards or chess at adult parties rather than ever be seen on the dance floor, but maybe these were particularly geeky boys.</p>