<p>I chose Notre Dame over UC San Diego about two days ago by declining UC San Diego online. However, since I was informed that I can still choose UC San Diego by sending them a SIR by mail, I am now more confused than ever. Ever since I chose Notre Dame, I’ve been having some regrets on not choosing UC San Diego. </p>
<li><p>I’m an asian american that’s semi-catholic. I volunteer at a catholic church and have many catholic friends, but I simply don’t practice any catholic values whatsoever. Most importantly, I advocate promiscuity instead of celibacy. How many people at Notre Dame (%) actually practice celibacy? </p></li>
<li><p>I’m afraid that I won’t fully reach my potential at Notre Dame. The one thing that UCSD has are a bunch of specific fields of study such as nanoengineering and cognitive science (fields that I’m really interested in). I want to find a passion of study and take it to graduate school and even try to satisfy my high ambitions in the future. However, I think Notre Dame will hold me back a little from the lack of opportunities compared to UC San Diego. 80% of the bioengineering students (the major I was admitted to at UCSD) do research and projects on the campus. There are also so many opportunities outside of UCSD. This might be a rumour, but I heard that only 214 people at Notre Dame actually did research as undergrads. I don’t know if Notre Dame can match up to this. </p></li>
<li><p>I haven’t visited Notre Dame or UCSD. Thus, I don’t know if “Nowhere else but notre dame” is the phrase for me. Of course, I love sports and play basketball and football. I also love sunlight. It seems like the winter will be a major obstacle for me to play outside sports. I think I can tolerate the weather because I grew up in Minnesota, but would the winter weather outweigh my interests for outdoor activities? </p></li>
<li><p>My dad has a very quick and furious temper, and I wouldn’t want my parents arguing a lot in the future. My dad wanted me to move to CA last year, but my mother and I didn’t. I think that if I go to UCSD, my dad will yell at my mother very often. </p></li>
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<p>I truly want to go to Notre Dame, but these thoughts have been obstacles, preventing me from going full out. Thank you for your time.</p>
<p>I am not sure that oral sex in public is a good idea wherever you go, I am pretty sure that is illegal in all 50 states. That being said, ND has just as many opportunities. ND doesn’t have the greatest grad school programs which leads for it to not be rated as highly as some other universities. However, I found it was a benefit for me as an undergraduate. I was able to get involved in research from the get-go and got opportunities to be mentored and do research I wouldn’t have elsewhere (my professor would tell people she would rather work with her undergrads than her grad students). When I was a senior I received a $1000 internal grant for my research. I am not sure if UCSD offers opportunities like that, but it made a huge difference for me and helped me choose a research career.</p>
<p>For point number four, please try to remember that this is your decision. Do what you feel is best for you, not what you think will change things. I say this because we can’t control what will happen or how others will act. We only can control ourselves and our futures to an extent.</p>
<p>give it a year…at least a semester…then ask yourself your original question again. ND may not offer some of the things you’d find at UCSD, but there are some things ND may offer that UCSD does not. </p>
<p>on another note…I think people at either ND or UCSD may look down on you if you have oral sex in public</p>
<p>to address number 2. I’m not sure where you got the stat 214 from–it may be true or it may not. But I can assure you the number, especially in engineering, is on the rise. I’m a rising sophomore and know quite a few people in my class who are staying over the summer to do research. At the same time, ND hasn’t claimed itself to be a “research” university, but there’s definitely been a big push lately (at least in engineering from my own experience) for undergrads to take part in research. </p>
<p>As you may or may not have heard, a brand new engineering building with incredible technology is well under construction at ND. Also, you should give this site a look if you’re interested in nano-technology. [ND</a> Nano Home](<a href=“http://www.nd.edu/~ndnano/]ND”>http://www.nd.edu/~ndnano/)</p>
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<li>How many people practice celibacy? Oral sex in public?</li>
<li>214 undergraduates did research. Where did that number come from? There are 7000 undergrads. Who decided what counts as research?</li>
<li>Winters may make it hard to play outside sports. You live in Minnesota. Its going to be warmer in Indiana than it is in Minnesota.</li>
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<p>If this is real it sounds like you really want to go to UCSD and point 4 is the only reason you’re not going.</p>
<p>You have two options:
Talk to your mom about your concerns (I wouldn’t bring up the oral sex in public concern) and see how big an issue it would be to go to UCSD.
Give ND a try. I don’t think many transfer out once they get there. I would think the ones that do are mostly financial or academic.</p>
<p>From your post, it sounds like you really do think you made the wrong decision, and that you are only seeking confirmation. If you think you UC San Diego is a better fit for you, which seems to be the case, then maybe you should send in the form by mail.</p>
<p>there are so so so many people that would be ecstatic to be called up from the waitlist. i am one of them. if ur heart is not in it, go to ucsd.</p>
<p>Now that I look at the thread, I’m regretting that there were so many negative connotations in my post that I wasn’t at first aware of. </p>
<p>My sincere apologies if I insulted Notre Dame and you people here by mentioning inappropriate matters. However, I still can’t seem to decide. I love Notre Dame… it’s just that these simple issues come up like flies on my mind. </p>
<p>Perhaps I could receive some big pros of Notre Dame that will make me re-affirm my previous decision!</p>
<p>Go to the school that fits you. ND is not the right fit for everyone. It is a great school, but it is not the only great school. If you think you would fit in better and get a better education, go to the other school. Don’t let “no place like Notre Dame” make you make the wrong choice for you. There is no place like any specific school.</p>
<p>If you are really torn between the two schools you owe it to yourself to make visits to each campus. If a visit to either campus is problematic because of time, money and/or location - then you may have the start to your answer. I cannot speak about UC San Diego and the campus firsthand. I would have to assume it is first-rate and beautiful owing to its’ location in SD. I can tell you that the ND campus is absolutely breathtaking and overflows with school tradition and spirit. If your final two choices are UCSD or ND…go experience them now before you decide. A personal visit will also give you great insight on the school’s culture and how well it blends with yourself ie…“the right fit”.</p>
<p>Just remember the breathtaking campus will be covered in snow for half of the academic year ;)…I will say it makes those warmer days all the better though–I now have an appreciation for good weather.</p>