<p>Ok, here’s the deal…I’m a kid who, up to this point, has had things pretty easily. Additionally, I work very hard at everything I do, so much so that I never “quit” or “lose” in anything (well, I lose in soccer, bball, etc.). Bottom line: I have never been rejected outright by anyone.
Well, UC/Ivy decisions come out beginning in March. BUT, I’m not really that nervous. My mind tells me that I will get in, it seems, solely because I have never been mentally trained to deal with rejection.
How do you suggest I deal with this? Is it wrong for me to get my hopes up? Any suggestions welcome</p>
<p>You may be the perfect student but there are hundreds of thousands just like you. There are scores of kids with perfect stats who get rejected from Ivies and even UCLA. There’s more supply than demand. </p>
<p>On the other hand your attitude of not being nervous is a good one. you may very well get into one of those schools. but also keep rejection as a realistic possibility.</p>
<p>Thank you…I am not saying that I am the perfect student, but I have worked to maximize my potential…I realize that, for me, attending UCLA would be an absolute dream, but the perfectionist in me seems to be guiding me to an anticlimactic ending (a glorious acceptance) or a state of shock that I don’t think I could ever get over…</p>
<p>Look at your stats. Look at the profiles of accepted students to various schools. Numbers will help put things into perspective.
It’s not wrong to get your hopes up - keep them realistically high and anticipate the backlash of the worst-case scenario. You have 46 threads and +360 posts… so you’ve been on CC long enough to look at stats and typically admitted students. Does it give you a reasonably [skewed: demographics of CC & those who post their stats] perception of where you stand?</p>
<p>the only thing that might help knock you down a peg is time. and maturity. </p>
<p>an acceptance to ucla should never be considered “anticlimactic”. and it should be considered a beginning- not an ending. the bottom line though is stop stressing about it and let yourself be surprised. if you don’t get in let yourself wallow for a week and move on. if you do get in- be excited yo. in the interim be realistic and realize that college admissions don’t always have much to do with how prepared you actually are. </p>
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<p>that said: don’t look at “failure” or “rejection” as a bad thing. you can’t grow without failing. or being rejected. and stuff tends to happen for a reason. so yknow. just learn to be ok with the way your path unfolds. it sounds so cliche- i know- but just trust me. </p>
<p>i’m a recovering perfectionist and i spent years just trying to get to the next place- graduate high school. go to ucla. ■■■■ and work. at some point you have to learn how to enjoy stuff and acknowledge your achievements (getting into ucla is a huuuuuuuuge achievement) or life just gets away from you. so slow down a little bit. college goes by <em>fast</em>.</p>
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[Tangent</a> from <strong>allie</strong>'s post.](<a href=“http://www.forbes.com/2007/02/25/alexandra-robbins-overachievers-lead_achieve07_cz_ar_0301over.html]Tangent”>Confessions Of A (Recovering) Overachiever)</p>
<p>lol not a tangent at alllll. </p>
<p>dude’s going to be in the same place if he’s already thinking that an acceptance would be anticlimactic. i was trying to warn him about how much it sucks to get to that place. I AM THE PATHETIC VOICE OF EXPERIENCE. </p>
<p>enjoy your lives people.</p>
<p>being accepted was fairly anticlimactic and a bit disappointing for me, but don’t worry. even if you end up at ucla, as long as you work hard, you can pull yourself back up.</p>
<p>^I was happy for about 2 days and then it was anticlimactic after I realized I wasted like 3 months waiting for decisions. Way to make me OCD >_>;;</p>
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<p>Sounds like someone just watched Batman Begins</p>
<p>lol no. </p>
<p>ive just been giving myself this pep talk for a month.</p>