<p>So, I took a girl out a couple times earlier in the year. She didn’t show much interest, so I pretty much left it alone and we haven’t really hung out since. Last week, she called me and asked if I wanted to go to her friend’s wedding with her this weekend.</p>
<p>I’m confused. Was she playing hard-to-get and I’m just dumb to subtle signals? Am I in the “buddy” zone? Am I a backup because her first option was busy that day?</p>
<p>She could just be paying you back for taking her out or maybe her feelings have changed.</p>
<p>The way I see it, either the girl actually kind-of liked you but just didn’t know how to express it and figured that she’d take a shot and ask you to a wedding. It’s not hard to miss subtle signals…especially since a lot of girls think that guys are more in-tune with their subtle signals than they really are. </p>
<p>OR the girl is desperate for a date to the wedding and thinks of you as option 2 (3, 4, or 5). Either way, if you still at least sorta kinda like her, its not gonna hurt if you just go. If she didn’t like you that much, I don’t see why she’d invite you to a wedding to “pay you back”…it’s not exactly the least conspicuous of places. She’s likely wanting to either show you off, trying to make another guy jealous, or really just not wanting to go w/o a date and thought that you’d be a nice choice. Really no way to tell by your description though…perhaps asking a friend who is familiar with her would be able to give you more of a clue</p>
<p>Remember, like the movie “Wedding Crashers” your looking at a win-win situation, there’s a good chance there will be other eligible girls to dance with!</p>
<p>I might be inclined to believe fa-la. The wedding’s in her hometown an hour or so away, and it’s her high school buddy that’s getting hitched. Probably at least one or two old exes to make jealous. And I clean up okay, though it’s flattering to think that someone would consider me “arm candy”. It might be that I’m a “safe” date- we have the same circle of friends, and I’m one of the few that’s around for the summer.</p>
<p>I dance, but it’s pretty much a means to an end. I am of the opinion that guys dance to make girls happy, and therefore, get girls. If guys really just liked dancing for it’s own merits, they’d do it away from women, the way we have guy’s night for watching football. Eligible girls never hurt. It always seemed like girls paid more attention to me after I had a girlfriend… some kind of increase in perceived value?</p>
<p>Yeah from personal experience your stock goes through the roof if you are in a relationship. Wish it were the other way around.</p>
<p>Maybe you should ask her?</p>
<p>On the way back, I might. On the way there could make the whole day awkward. Going to go, play it by ear, be witty/charming, and stay mostly sober. I’ll report back on Saturday with the results.</p>
<p>Well, good news, bad news… wedding was awesome. Her friends seemed to like me, she introduced me to a lot of people she grew up with, we danced quite a bit. Went back home, said I’d like to take her out again. She said that would be great, but she’s not back in town until I leave for the summer, so the earliest a date could happen would be August-> good night-kiss, I went home, story ended but still unfinished…</p>