<p>I purchased this as a gift with beautiful stationery:</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.americanstationery.com/embosser-with-changeable-plates-plate-6.html”>http://www.americanstationery.com/embosser-with-changeable-plates-plate-6.html</a></p>
<p>I just bought this pair of candlesticks for a wedding we are invited to but are not attending. </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=25486471&mcat=148209&cid=297635&search_params=p+1-n+10000-c+297635-s+5-r+-t+-ni+1-x+-lr+-hr+-ri+-mi+-pp+295+2&search=0&origin=browse&searchkeyword=”>http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=25486471&mcat=148209&cid=297635&search_params=p+1-n+10000-c+297635-s+5-r+-t+-ni+1-x+-lr+-hr+-ri+-mi+-pp+295+2&search=0&origin=browse&searchkeyword=</a></p>
<p>emilybee, we received a very similar pair of crystal candlesticks from Tiffany as a wedding present! Still use and like them, decades later. :)</p>
<p>^ It’s my go to gift when I don’t want to give money. I also think people like getting a gift in the blue Tiffany box. </p>
<p>I have them also and use then all the time. 
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<p>I mentioned my idea of giving crystal for a wedding gift to her sister, and she responded with horror & said to leave it up to her. :-t
I expect she knows better than I do as to what things they would enjoy, so I’m going to let her lead.
But thanks for all your help anyway.</p>
<p>Are you on speaking terms with your daughter’s husband’s parents? If so, can you get a favorite childhood picture of him and put that picture of him and one of your daughter at about the same age into a nice 2-photo frame? I also think you could write a letter to your daughter’s husband talking about what she was like as a child (several small and flattering stories) and welcome him to the family. </p>
<p>That’s a cute idea.
I haven’t met his parents, and I would like to send them a note but would feel uncomfortable trying to get their address.
His dad is a neurosurgeon in Alabama, although partly retired and they’ve sold their home & now live full time at their summer place.
I will write her H a note though.
I did send them both a valentine but didn’t expect to hear anything.</p>
<p>Since you and your D have had a somewhat prickly relationship, it might be best to tread carefully. Your D might not be happy if you reveal anything she might want to share with her H and might feel you are intruding. I don’t know, but might try to more cautious; I’d aim for welcoming but not too “chummy.”</p>
<p>I agree w/ HIMOM. Given the prickly relationship that you have, and given that you’ve said you’re on the spectrum and can’t always read people’s emotions all that well, I would avoid writing a letter to your daughter’s husband. It won’t come across well, no matter how well meant. I’m sorry you’re in pain and that this is so difficult. </p>