<p>For those of you who have received invitations with confusing attire instructions, I would go to the source–just call the mother on whichever side invited you and ask what you should wear! When DS got married last year, I understood that at first there would be no instruction about attire on the invitation. What this traditionally means is that a guest is supposed to ascertain the correct attire by determining the formality of the invitation itself. I’m not kidding about this. Because this was going to make me crazy (and because I was hoping that what the attire should be was black tie) I called the MOB and said that if there was no instruction on the invitation, both she and I would get many calls asking what to wear. I told her I would tell my friends whatever she (MOB) wanted me to, but I would need some direction. This finally prompted her to put “black tie optional” on the invitations.</p>
<p>Alh, I wore a turquoise dress that I had bought for a wedding two years ago in a size that I wasn’t happy with–but the dress looked as good as I thought it would be possible for me to look in that condition so I bought it and saved myself the agony of further shopping. Two years later and a number of pounds thinner, I had the dress altered significantly and enjoyed wearing it this time. I just like the idea of color–and didn’t want to be part of the sea of black.</p>