I have been estranged from my half sister for almost 7 years. It’s never been a good relationship, bad family dysfunction forever, she’s 8 years older. The last bad event, I decided I had enough mistreatment from her, it’s been that way my whole life with me sucking it up. I don’t miss her at all. The only thing I miss is when our families would get together.
I have 2 nephews, a few years older than my boys. I was always fond of them, and part of the reason I put up with her was so they could all be cousins. Of course, they were the collateral damage of the estrangement. One of my boys has been a little more vocal or sad about it, not a lot, but I can tell it effected him, I encouraged both boys to keep in touch with their cousins, as they are old enough to do so. I think they have through FB sporadically.
My oldest nephew, now 30, texted one son and asked for our address and phone number. Told my son he had a fiancé and was living in our city. Anyway, both my son and I think it might be a wedding invitation, what else could it be?
My son is already timidly asking if it is, would we go. I said that would be very awkward, not having reconciled with my sister. That weddings aren’t the place for that. I would be touched if it is a wedding invitation. I’m sure the estrangement hasn’t been easy on my nephews, either.
I really feel if there is no reaching out from my sister, that it would be inappropriate for us to attend. If that happens, I think a heartfelt letter explaining why and a generous gift should be enough. Your thoughts? I always felt great affection for this particular nephew.