<p>When a second marriage for you is in the offing, would you invite a former mother-in-law whom you’ve retained a close and familiar relationship with? A relative asked my opinion and I am of two minds, since his relationship with the ex-spouse is simply cordial (finally); nothing more and nothing less. While obviously supporting her daughter, the mother-in-law has been a wonderful friend to her former son-in-law.</p>
<p>Yes. Your relationship with her as changed of course, but it is still close and familiar, and that’s virtually the definition of whom you want at a wedding.</p>
<p>It would depend a lot on what my future spouse thought of the situation. If there was anything less than wholehearted acceptance , I’d skip it.</p>
<p>My sister’s ex-in-laws introduced her to her second husband. Of course they were invited!</p>
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<p>Besides the many numerous relatives who we are obligated to invite to a wedding, shouldn’t we have our wonderful friends present at the occassion? The former in-laws can be introduced as dear friends or even “Beth’s parents”. They would probably feel hurt if they were left out, and it’s not as if the previous marriage was a secret.</p>
<p>I usually think it’s best to just issue the invitation, and let the recipients decide if they want to attend.</p>
<p>Furthermore, if there are kids involved, it might be nice for them for their grandmother to be included.</p>