<p>My DH is on a weight loss regimen and is very, very disciplined about it and it basically absolves me from shopping for his food or cooking it. At first, I felt sort of odd about it but now we just eat our respective food at the same time. It’s fine. </p>
<p>I don’t want him to lose much more, though. I’m not a fan of skinny 50-somethings. I think they look too frail.</p>
<p>And our skin bags around our bones :)</p>
<p>Isn’t that what Spanx are for? I just received a hardcopy catalog in the mail … who knew what a little under-wear can do for a body!</p>
<p>I don’t know what is wrong with my body but I don’t find spanx work for me. I find the top always wants to roll over. Plus getting out of the thing to use the bathroom. I do remember my Mom putting on her girdle.</p>
<p>Nothing wrong with YOU, Mom60! You must have gotten a defective pair. I just can’t wear those restrictive undergarments! They make me cranky! One thing I do buy is underwear from Soma that truly have invisible panty lines. I find that takes pounds off more than squeezing everything in. I think there called "disappearing edge or something like that.</p>
<p>I can’t believe I’m talking about underwear.</p>
<p>Mom60, I am not a girdle person generally either, but knowing these objects exist get me thinking. if the top of the spanx rolls or your tummy rolls a bit over the top of it, they show a photo of a Spanx “girdle” that goes up to right under your bra, and can even hook around your bra if you want to prevent the roll effect. I think whatever problem area one has they have an idea to make it look better. For me, I just need a little firming in my behind, that is my jiggly bit area.</p>
<p>Anyway, back on topic, week two … Notes to self: avoid sugars, record food, exercise more.</p>
<p>Without being too inappropriate, I find minimal is actually more slimming than the Spanx girdle type stuff.</p>
<p>I agree, Sewhappy. When you squeeze something, it’s just bound to pop out somewhere else. Simple physics.</p>
<p>What GREAT reading! My husband eats what I cook and is pretty supportive of me in my weight loss journey. My issue is that every night, no matter how large his dinner, he has a “snack” while watching tv. It’s more like another meal! And he is slender and has no weight issues. </p>
<p>On another note, I’ve finally resumed my daily exercise. It feels great to be in control again!</p>
<p>My H does the same thing. Or he eats one snack after another after another. Drives me nuts.</p>
<p>To try and give you all inspiration for those hubby’s who refuse to get on the healthy bandwagon, I want to let you know there is still HOPE!</p>
<p>My H has been overweight for YEARS - I’ll say 20. His eating habits are horrible (often doesn’t eat breakfast, heavier eater later in the day, fast food junkie, doesn’t grab a handful of chips sits with the bag in his lap - you get the picture. 
He will exercise and is somewhat active at his job, but he washes all the good away from the exercising when he stops on the way home and gets 2 sausage biscuits and a couple of hash browns from McDonalds!!! Argh!!! </p>
<p>I have tried talking to him (he ignores), not bringing junk home (he’ll buy it himself), be a good role model (ignores!), have the kids talk to him, etc. etc. </p>
<p>Well, I just found out recently that he - on his own - decided to go to Weight Watchers. OMG. He told me 2 weeks ago that he got on the scale one morning, saw “269” and said, “that’s it”. On his own, he inquired, got hooked up with a group where he goes to a meeting once a week, and jumped in hook, line and sinker! He did not tell me till he had part of the program for NINE WEEKS!!! At that point he had lost 16.5 pounds. 5% of himself!! I was FLOORED. </p>
<p>Now he is a food “point” guru. He is so excited to talk about it and share what he has learned. He is not embarrassed to go to the group because he knows that it is “worth it” for the ideas and the feedback - weight loss - that he receives. He says he still thinks about food every minute of the day but he is for some reason SO motivated. </p>
<p>I am so, so, so proud of him. :)</p>
<p>Never in a million years would I have guessed him to be a willing Weight Watchers person.<br>
The important point is though that no amount of lecturing from me, prodding, etc. made it happen. It was HIM deciding “that’s it” and taking the steps HIMSELF. </p>
<p>He has a long way to go, I hope he can hang on and keep with it. </p>
<p>When you take the steps to do this for YOURSELF, it seems to make many facets of your life more positive and more successful.</p>
<p>So don’t give up hope on those hubbies yet!!!</p>
<p>Congrats to abasket’s H. I firmly believe that weight loss is 90% in your head. Motivation is the key! Whoo- hoo! I wish my H would “get there” again. He has achieved success before, but it crept back on. H leads a sedentary lifestyle and loves food that is bad for you.No nagging from me- I know all too well the person has to want to make the change.</p>
<p>Still fighting this crud- though I have getting there. I miss exercising. I plan on going for a walk this afternoon. weight has stayed the same- I have no appetite!</p>
<p>abasket … good news for him and you! At least you can support him now and he’ll appreciate it very much. My H jumps on the WW band wagon every other year and also becomes a points guru … good for them.</p>
<p>Tonight is my XC ski night … lots of exercise and adrenaline and feeling good afterwards. ILoVermont in the winter.</p>
<p>Abasket, that is so awesome. What a terrific surprise for you, and how cool that <em>he</em> did it for himself. Will he share more of this journey with you or is he happy doing it on his own?</p>
<p>Wish DH would do that! He gave up sugared sodas when he was diagnosed with Type II, but has not really changed much else. Has never exercised, has a seriously stressful sedentary job. His BMI is still over 40.</p>
<p>abasket Congrats for your husband! And YOU for keeping him mindful!</p>
<p>For others whose husbands are fighting the good fight or for those who can’t seem to get started—you may want to check out the book “The Anderson Method” by William Anderson. He can look at customer reviews on Amazon. The book isn’t about a specific diet or even exercise. . .it’s behavioral psychology! Short and to the point, it explains how we got overweight, what we can do to get it off and why we sometimes fail or give up. I’ve found it very freeing and helpful in my weight loss journey.</p>
<p>For me, it’s more than the weight and the cholesterol numbers: it’s finding myself again.</p>
<p>Today is my weigh-in day. I gained over Christmas break with my only D home from her freshman year. Six weeks of no regular exercise or eating routine, the result being a weight gain of 2.8 lbs. The weight can sure gone on fast! </p>
<p>This week, I lost 1.4 lbs. Total weight removed so far 30.4 lbs. </p>
<p>We can all do this! SnowflakeVT—I’m so envious of your ski-night! How fabulous!</p>
<p>He is sharing with me now. He goes to his WW mtg Friday mornings - last week he stopped by my office to share that he had lost a couple more pounds! Now I can be more mindful of what I buy and now when I buy something that can help him (like a bought the individual serving sizes bags of baby carrots at Costco) he GETS it and will listen - when I showed him those he said, “Yes! Those are the things you need to keep in the car so you aren’t tempted to drive thru and get a fast food fix!” He also has learned that more exercise gets him more points to EAT. So on his days off he is taking the dog for LONG walks so he can earn more points to either eat or to take off calories!</p>
<p>Best of luck today to all on your eating, exercising and motivation! :)</p>
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<p>This made me laugh! And you had no clue??? (Didn’t think he was having an affair?)</p>
<p>Haha - not really! The mtg he goes to is just once a week and it’s when I am at work. He works weird hours so we don’t have many meals together. He was making more stops at the produce store - I did notice that - but with the business of the holidays (and he worked some overtime during that time) I didn’t pay tons of attention.</p>
<p>ellemenope … such drama! But you made me laugh.</p>
<p>ellemenope! How hilarious! He’s ending a b-a-d affair. . .with junk food! I remember Richard Simmons saying that food was the one illicit pleasure that wasn’t illegal, unethical or immoral!</p>