<p>I have a friend who created an account with her son’s name when he was 10 or 11. She used it to get more friends for farmville or petville. It’s just a fake account but she forgets what account she signed on to and will like things using his name.</p>
<p>He is 14 now, I imagine he has his own or if he just took over the account that has his name.</p>
<p>Don’t get what this topic is about, since the OP agrees but…</p>
<p>I know that I wouldn’t like my parents liking or posting stuff as me. It’s pretending to be me, which isn’t right. I have no problem with them looking at stuff I have there, but to go so far as leaving a presence that says “(my name) was here” is just wrong. </p>
<p>However, since I’m a kid, I asked my parents what they thought about it, both agreed that to be liking/posting stuff as your child is wrong. They believe in the Golden Rule, and supposedly this falls under that :)</p>
<p>I’m surprised at the vehement reaction to shared marital email addresses. How do you divvy up which address to use for schools, banks, soccer teams, etc? >></p>
<p>Most married people I know have a shared one for stuff like that and also individual ones. I never thought it was weird.</p>
<p>When D was in college (and before I was on Facebook) she gave me her password to log onto her page once or twice after mentioning that “so and so posted great pictures” of something. Other than those few instances I haven’t been on D’s page. It wouldn’t have even crossed my mind to actually post. </p>
<p>H and I were talking about Facebook last night at dinner. We had been at our favorite coffee bar and it is obviously crunch time at at least one of the local colleges because most of the tables were filled with students who were studying with more intensity than usual - there was little socializing going on. Books were strewn on each table and laptops were open yet it was obvious from where we sat that most of them were flipping back and forth to Facebook. For some of them it is quite a distraction…but that is a topic for another thread.</p>
<p>How to divvy up important mail between spouses’ emails–easy! Anything that matters comes to me. This works for both of us. :)</p>
<p>Why can’t you give two e-mail addresses to the Little League coach? I still don’t see the need for a couples’ e-mail account, but it’s OK with me if people use them.</p>
<p>We have had a shared email account since forever. WAY back when when we got our first computer, you had to pay extra for more email accounts and everyone just had a “family” account. We still have that “family” account that gets used for most things but I have a separate account that I had to get for my cell phone, we have work accounts, and the kids have their own accounts now for their cell phones. I guess it is like having a land line for the “family” and then everyone having a cell phone too.</p>
<p>As for pretending your are a child on Facebook–isn’t that illegal :). I would NEVER do that. I know a couple times the kids have left their Facebook accounts up and when I would open Facebook, some of their friends would think that I was them but I would tell them it was me and then sign out. Now that everyone here has their own computer, it doesn’t happen any more.</p>
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<p>That’s how the Thumper Household does it too. <em>My</em> email address has never changed. My husband’s has numerous times. So the important “stuff” comes to me.</p>
<p>Why can’t you give two e-mail addresses to the Little League coach? I still don’t see the need for a couples’ e-mail account, but it’s OK with me if people use them. >></p>
<p>As a long time coaches’ wife (since early 90s), we rarely get more than one email per child. Occasionally, we will get a work and a home one, but I can’t remember ever getting two home ones. </p>
<p>Not that it really matters, but…</p>
<p>Mmm…I am “friends” with my D (and several of her close friends) on FB. Sometimes I will comment on her status or photos (although I have been instructed as to what constitutes an acceptable comment, and have been warned not to comment too frequently!)
I also insisted on having the password to her account when she first signed up for FB…(she was much younger at that time…and I flet I still needed the ability to monitor her if needed…much like the “parental controls” I had on her cellphone) I still have her password and although I don’t sign in to check her page any longer, it is nice to know she trusts me enough to keep me updated when she changes the password…Even when she was younger and I monitored her account I would never have posted anything on her page as if it was her!
Oh…and one of our cats also has a FB page…back when we played Farmville and didn’t want our pages cluttered up with the thousands of posts!..We did have fun making up her “personal info”…</p>
<p>Cap, I mean this in strictly a curious (not judgmental way): do you and your spouse also share a cell phone? </p>
<p>I think its quite normal to share email accounts in that I’ve seen it around, though no one we personally know. But I can’t imagine spouse and I doing that for some reason. Usually there is a point person for any one activity/kid/bill/chore. We just divide up stuff that way. And forward stuff to each other as needed. No idea why…just evolved and seemed easiest. Or because together we have 5 phones (a landline, two iphones, two office numbers?) Or maybe because we had emails individually before we met?.(we were both using email on mainframes back in the 80s).</p>
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<p>I know of some couples who share email accounts…but they tend to be extremely joined at the waist even among highly devoted couples…and more importantly…non-techies. </p>
<p>I’ve yet to meet a programmer, software engineer, or IT person who doesn’t agree with my assessment that allowing more than one person to access an account meant for individual use is extremely poor computer security practice for both the primary user and the institution it is registered under if the account is through the primary user’s workplace…whether it is a university or a financial corporation. </p>
<p>More importantly…such usage tends to violate the usage terms of every ISPs I’ve used/looked into, educational/public institutions, and corporations. In fact…it is considered such a serious breach of terms that some schools will immediately put you before the judicial board and cease all computing privileges at best for the first offense…and a firing offense at some companies I’ve worked for because they take their computer security very seriously.</p>
<p>I’ve served on boards where one board member had a shared email account. The other spouse is not elected to the board and we conduct business via email. I do find it problematic for sensitive material to be viewed by a spouse who really shouldn’t see it. Email is a two-way street. It’s not just how the couple feel about sharing information, it’s how the sender feels about knowing someone they may not even know is seeing the email. If it’s just shared for things like sports information it’s one thing. But there is a place for individual email addresses and that should probably be determined by the type of email being received and who is sending it.</p>
<p>Cap, I mean this in strictly a curious (not judgmental way): do you and your spouse also share a cell phone? >></p>
<p>No, we don’t. </p>
<p>We’ve had the email account since 1997 and it is the primary one we both use for business like banking, etc. We also each have private ones. </p>
<p>Trust me, he knows all about cybersecurity and the shared account has nothing to do with work at all.</p>
<p>cobrat–FUNNY–I think everyone I know has a joint e-mail account, including our computer programming friends. I don’t see your generalizations as being even close to my experience.</p>
<p>I don’t know anyone who has a joint email acct. I also am on a lot of group emails. It doesn’t mean that the information is not shared, but by the address it is an individual acct.</p>
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<p>I did say “I have yet to meet…” which leaves the possibility of computer programmers or other techies having joint accounts…just never met them. </p>
<p>Just as well as the ISPs/schools I’ve used/attended/know of would have suspended all email/internet privileges upon discovery of joint-use and the companies I worked for would have done the same and immediately fire the primary user for gross violations of corporate computer usage policies. In the latter case…there may also be additional legal ramifications due to various Federal Securities regulations, NDAs, and other legal niceties.</p>
<p>Work email situations are quite different than a home email…</p>
<p>what happened to the OP of this thread?</p>
<p>I also find the question a bit peculiar. That said, my s’s gf told me that she doesn’t go on fb very often, but her mom asked if she could go on her page and see what’s up, so she lets her. I thought it was …err… unusual, but I guess they are close and comfortable with it.</p>