<p>InvolvedmomFL: I wouldn’t say the few people who said that to me are self-righteous–I think it is more a difference in parenting philosophy than anything. I felt as though it was a safe question to ask on a college-focused website, since a lot of what parents are agonizing over here is how to help their kids get into the “best” prep schools, colleges, and so on as a way of ensuring a bright future. What does that future look like to people? And are the choices we are helping our kids make regarding college in sync with the long-term hopes and dreams we have for them, and they have for themselves? Those are the questions that interest me.</p>
<p>^ I see more talk about best fit, not best college. I really don’t get the “career dream” talk…but maybe that’s just me. I wish for heath and happiness.</p>
<p>Career dreams</p>
<p>For my son I think he would be great as the band leader for the SNL house band. On the side he would cure Alzheimer’s disease with his neuroscience brilliance. He would be a great philanthropist too.</p>
<p>For my artist / graffics designer/ baker / partier daughter: She would be in total control of her own cartoon empire. Writing comic books, designing characters, making a television series based on her characters etc. </p>
<p>Wait that is actually her dream and she is well on her way!!!</p>
<p>I used to dream that one would be a doctor and one would be a lawyer. So If I’m sick I will be taken care off, and if I’m being sued by someone I would also be taken care off. My kids had different idea. But maybe they can still each marry a doctor and/or a lawyer and I would still be taken care off. But lately with all the news about lawyers not finding jobs, I think I should forget the lawyer part.</p>
<p>I thought this thread looked fun … and then I opened it. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Ds1 – baseball announcer
Ds2 – presidential chief of staff</p>
<p>I’ve always dreamed that my daughter would find balance and prosperity in her life. Instead, she became an opera singer. Oh well.</p>
<p>DD2’s dream is to work for “Doctors without Borders” or some such… Tiger mom was OK with it till she found out that DwB tend to operate in really unfriendly places… Quite funny.</p>
<p>The plan is still on for DwB tho.</p>
<p>I used to wish for my daughter to be a tenured professor :-))</p>
<p>At one time I thought S would be a philosophy professor. I think he may have found what really suits him: long-form journalism/non-fiction writing. Certainly, he has the talent as a writer. I just read his final paper for a creative writing class, and it blew me away. Who knows, he may even turn into a novelist. I still think he would be an excellent professor. (And of course, writing is obligatory for a professor…)</p>
<p>He has the ability to do just about anything he wants. All he has to do it want it. There’s the rub.</p>
<p>I tell her that she will be working for 30 to 40 years and that she has to do something that she enjoys. </p>
<p>Anything that she loves , and pays enough to support the lifestyle she can live with would be fine. It would be more than fine, it would be fantastic!</p>
<p>Here was my dad’s dream for my girls. He wanted one of them to be another Connie Chung, and have one of them go to Yale (not sure why not Harvard) and be a well known/published professor.</p>
<p>I hope they end up doing whatever they love, that also makes a good income. I would hope that if they spend all their time following their passion, by some point (I’d say late twenties or so), if they have a family and they realize that passion will not support it, that they save the passion as a hobby and do what it takes to get a career that will take care of their family. I actually think they will do that from the get go, seeing as they don’t have a trust fund, or a mommy and daddy that will give them money forever. Maybe they could follow that passion forever if they have a supportive and wealthy spouse. </p>
<p>I would be never be embarrassed about any (legal) profession they choose, but I would be embarrassed if, after many years they couldn’t make a decent income at it and had to depend upon others for money. I suspect that S1 will be a local politician with a tech start up company, and S2 will be a CEO of some sort.</p>
<p>ooooohhhhh…busdriver…your kiddles should met my kiddles…after their 20’s of course :)</p>
<p>S1 in CC- I wish he would do anything productive. I see him finally getting serious about school in ten years and then trying to be his own boss somehow. </p>
<p>D1 starting college- maybe a psychologist, which I think would fit her personality nicely. Part of me wants her to do something with a STEM field since she has such aptitude for it and I would think a woman would have some nice options. </p>
<p>D2 in HS- probably something in science or health. She is currently set on being a cardiac perfusionist. I can certainly see that.</p>
<p>dietz, I’m always trying to match my kids up with cc girls, because of course only the best and brightest are on this site (both kids, and parents, of course)!</p>
<p>If they are kind, loving, funny and smart, I’ll all for it. Whatever happened to arranged marriages anyways?</p>
<p>Oh, boy. Maybe we should start an “arranging marriages” thread. 
<em>rubs hands gleefully</em></p>
<p>^^And that would be a well visited thread, I’m sure of that!</p>
<p>Unfortunately, we couldn’t do it without humiliating them and of course they wouldn’t take our advice anyways. If only it were legally enforceable in some way…</p>
<p>Since my DS will be attending an all-male college, I doubt he would be too embarassed if some lovely accomplished young women wanted to take a road trip to a small Indiana college for a visit. He need not know that their parents are on CC. ;)</p>
<p>Do you want company for Thanksgiving ;)</p>
<p>My son could benefit from meeting a young woman who is just a little more motivated than he is. CC would be the perfect place to find one, I think.</p>