<p>^ About the spouse trying to learn Spanish: yeah, really. Sounds great, to me. Why do people set up arbitrary boundaries? We also threw in some German traditions, from the time DH and I lived there.</p>
<p>My DH grew up overseas and as a toddler was bilingual. Unfortunately he did not continue to speak it and has forgotten virtually all. It would have been a helpful language to speak as an adult.</p>
<p>How unusual that some posts show up on the computer forum but not on the phone app. Anyone else notice this?</p>
<p>Experiencing both adopted child’s original nation and his/her adoptive parents’ nation would probably be the best option if possible.</p>
<p>I’ll make the obvious statement that the best environment for a child, cross-cultural or not, adopted or not, is a loving and supportive family.</p>
<p>That being said, with loving earnest parents most kids will figure out on their own what they are comfortable with. Not an adoption situation, but a dear friend was raised in a cross cultural family; father German Jewish and mostly secular while the mother is Italian and staunchly Catholic. Mother raised the 4 kids in a definitely Papal household. Today as successful adults the kids are a mix; one is firmly Catholic and quite immersed in the culture of Italy, while another has his feet firmly set in Jewish religious law and life. They are all happy. I’d say that they had a pretty good set of parents.</p>