I’ve posted before that NMH did the most beautiful job of getting to know our son:
At revisit day, they had all the kids get into a circle. Each was given a large envelope with the name of a prospective student on it and they were to continue passing them in one direction until all the envelopes ended up in the right hands. This is how they award diplomas on graduation day, a process indicating that an NMH education is a product of a community of many hands; no one achieves alone. The kids then brought the envelopes back to their seats and read the content with their parents. Inside the envelope, on heavy, suitable-for-framing, diploma-quality paper was a certificate with the NMH logo and graphic of the campus. Below the picture were several paragraphs explaining in specific detail what NMH knew about our son and how NMH and he were a match. It brought a big lump to my throat. NMH was unabashedly courting our son.
I’ve since learned to put this courting into its proper perspective. Every school is wooing every applicant it admits, but understand that they fiercely protect their yields. Enjoy the attention, but remain aware of the context.
At our son’s Choate revisit, the headmaster (not the current one), had a flattering talk with him and did the full-court press closing with a firm handshake and asking outright, “Well (kiddo), will we see you on campus in the fall?” It was all very flattering, but part of the game.
There is no need for further communication after declining. I would read nothing into this. It does not reflect one way or the other on the school, IMO.