<p>What do you do and think about your looks at your particulat age?</p>
<p>In another word, let’s not criticize each other at different ages. Yes you are more youthful, and by societies standards, prettier at 20 vs 50. But what makes you prettier at each age, ie 30, 40, 50, 60, etc?</p>
<p>I personally, 59, lost weight four years ago and have grown my dyed hair a bit longer. I’ve been getting a lot of compliments and stares and hits by older gentlemen. Haha. Many more than my 40’s. So, at my particular age, I think I’m sexy and more secure and confident. But not always for sure. There are not so great days.</p>
<p>I finally got to be the redhead I wanted to be at 20. I’m in far better physical shape and my weight is less than when I graduated from college or grad school, though more than when I got married. (But not by much!)</p>
<p>Not to butt in as the young one but while I was on vacation celebrating my graduation, I can’t tell you how many people thought I had just graduated from high school. </p>
<p>I have two degrees :(. </p>
<p>I know I’ll appreciate looking young one day, but that day is not today lol.</p>
<p>romani,
When I was 28 years old, I got “carded” in a bar where I had gone with a group of my friends after an annual office picnic. The drinking age then was 18! :eek: (All I wanted was a soda!) I was really embarrassed and got teased about this for years to come. I, however, have had the last laugh, as my youthful looks have followed me for decades and no one has a clue how old I really am. But, I understand how you feel now and can empathize!</p>
<p>I once went to a bar in LA years ago. I was in my late 20’s. The carder/bouncer asked for my ID. I said that I was probably older than him, the carder. I was right.</p>
<p>You hate it when you are old enough and yet still carded and young enough (yet over 21) and not passable.</p>
<p>That’s the weird thing though- I’ve only ever been ID’ed a handful of times. I don’t get it!</p>
<p>Maybe it’s because I only generally drink in restaurants when my parents are paying (I’m a poor college student :p) and they figure if my parents are letting me, then I’m probably of age.</p>
<p>I was throwing a dinner party once and had to get wine, so in the late afternoon I hopped out of the shower, slipped on a sundress, and ran to the liquor store. Since my long hair was down and wet, the owner carded me and was really surprised that I was 40. I was quite amused.</p>
<p>When I was in high school, I looked 12 and was so patiently waiting to get a figure. In my early 20’s I was okay, but still wished I looked like an adult. Now in my late 50’s I finally look like I’ve reached puberty. As long as I keep dying my hair I look many years younger and even my son told me that I still look like I’m in my 20’s from behind So I feel much better about myself at this age than I ever have. No. I don’t actually look 20, but for my age I look really good. Not sure I would trade for looking better and feeling more confident back then, but am pretty happy now.</p>
<p>My son who is 31 got carded just the other day. It will be awhile before that stops. It’s a family curse.</p>
<p>Older son gets carded a lot. Both he and my younger son were in Vegas. Younger son had just turned 21. Older son was 23. Younger son wasn’t bothered at all while gambling. However, the casino folks followed older son around and kept asking to see his ID.</p>
<p>Back to the thread’s topic…</p>
<p>I’m happy to be in my mid 50s and I have no wrinkles. This annoys H like the dickens. (thank you Italian daddy who had NO WRINKLES when he died at age 90)</p>
<p>However, I’m not happy with my hair. I wish it were thicker. :(</p>
<p>And I’m not happy with my knee joints, but that doesn’t “show”, they just hurt. :(</p>
<p>Thanks for trying this discussion again! If “anyone” tries to sabotage our discussion, let’s agree to ignore him, shall we?</p>
<p>I am 52 and I feel pretty, most of the time. The things that i can control, I do but its the things that I can’t do anything about that make me crazy. The former flat belly and tiny waist that wants to expand, for instance!</p>
<p>I do feel more comfortable with myself at this age than I ever have and more confident. I think confidence is attractive on both men AND women.</p>
<p>I’m 64 and a half (OMG! and a half!!) and I’ve been mistaken for mid-40s. I’ll take that. My body is in pretty good shape (I’m very serious about exercising regularly), but my face is starting to droop. If I had an extra $20K or $25K, I’d go the whole nine yards and do plastic surgery.</p>
<p>I didn’t know the other thread was closed. Thanks morrismm for starting this one, and congrats on looking good!</p>
<p>I turned 50 last summer and I think, on a good day with enough sleep and water, I look like I’m early to mid-40s. When I mention my daughter to people at work, they’re really surprised she’s 20. </p>
<p>A friend of mine bought the book “how not to look old”. Apparently, gold is old, so I wear silver jewelry now. </p>
<p>I get facials now once a month, and try to exercise (though not as much as VeryHappy – you go girl!). I think if you’re fit and your skin glows, you’ll look younger.</p>
<p>I’m not quite in the look/feel better now crowd here. At least on the outside.
Inside, I am SO much more confident, accomplished then at age 20 or 25.</p>
<p>I know what I SHOULD do as far as exercise and eating, it’s just hard for me apparently to stick to it. Stress is very very bad and I allow it to sabotage my best laid plans.</p>
<p>Still, so happy it is almost summer. I’ve got a new Lands End tankini coming my way and I will bravely plunge into my beloved town pool to do my 45 min of laps in the sunshine!</p>
<p>Yikes! I will be turning 49 in about a week or so. I actually do forget how old I am and just had to do a quick calculation with my calculator. After 28, I stopped counting :)</p>
<p>I think if you keep in shape, you look much younger. I exercise regularly, eat healthy and …well sleep, I need to work on. </p>
<p>Getting ready for a Zumba class in about half an hour.</p>
<p>I don’t know how old I really look, but my students (hs) seem to be surprised that I am 59, older than their granparents.</p>
<p>Are we allowed to go OT for some funny stuff? Here goes.</p>
<p>A random student came into my room when I didn’t have a class, and asked me to help him understand a word in a book he was reading for English. I asked, is it in Old English?</p>
<p>He answered in the affirmative, and I thought I wouldn’t be able to help. I teach Spanish.</p>
<p>The word was “fathom”. I asked him why he told me the book was in Old English? He said the book was from 1945. To him that’s old.</p>
<p>The whole “getting in shape” thing can backfire on you if you’ve been overweight for a long time and then lose a significant amount. The skin just doesn’t spring back at this age. I lost 65 pounds 4 years ago and have kept it off. Losing that weight introduced wrinkles. I’m a little surprised at my neck now and then when I look in a mirror, but it doesn’t bother me most of the time. I love crows feet and mine are there in full force. Crows feet show smiling and when I see someone with crows feet, they are usually fairly happy, smiling people. They are far better than having one of those angry lines down the forehead. </p>
<p>My dad had to have the eyelid surgery because it was impairing his vision. I suspect that could happen with me as I’m noticing mine now. </p>
<p>When I turned 45, I joked with people that I saw no reason to lie and tell people I was younger than I am. Instead, I would start telling people I was 50 so they would say “Wow! She looks great for 50!” Now that I’m approaching 50, I will need to up that…lol. </p>
<p>I did start dying my hair when I was job hunting late last fall. I’m not happy with dying though- not at all happy. It’s another thing to do and worry about and maintain. I’m thinking about switching to the 28 day dyes until the permanent dyes are grown out and going back to my salt & pepper. I’m not sure though. Before I started coloring my hair, people always complimented my “highlights”. Uh…</p>
I’m in far better physical shape and my weight is less than when I graduated from college or grad school, though more than when I got married. (But not by much!)</p>