Mom or Dad will be weird. Mr and Mrs no better. Your first name may sound too casual. What do they call you?
We told our D’s boyfriend to call us by our first names. If they ever bet married, he’s welcome to call us mom/dad if he’s comfortable.
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Both of my SILs call us by our first names, which is our strong preference.
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D1’s fiance calls us by our first names which is what we prefer.
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I’ve asked my daughters’ SOs to call me Mrs. [my last name].
They are the only people who use that form of address. 
They do use my first name as well.
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My husband calls my parents by their first names. I call his mother by her first name. In all cases, that was their preference even before we got married. Mom and Dad was never an option.
He calls my grandparents and great-grandparents the same as I do (which are the cutesy names on the other thread - not grandpa/grandma).
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I’ve never wanted to be called by “Mrs.” - even though I’ve been married to the same person 40+ years. Both SO’s call us by our first name though my DIL (who has little to no relationship with her father) who has an excellent relationship with my H, her FIL, often calls him “Mr. Abasket” - it’s kind of a joke now but initially I think she did it as sort of a respect thing and not always being comfortable with an older male figure.
I would never want or expect to be called “mom” by anyone other than my kids - regardless of their relationship with their own parents.
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I’m 100% sure that when our D finally introduces her SO to her grandfather (there is only one left), he will insist on being called Mr. Last Name. They were Mr/Mrs to me until after we were married and then they insisted on mom/dad. Awkward at best.
This is timely for me. Our son and new DIL just left from a nine-day visit, and this thread made me realize that she never once referred to me or DH by anything, conversation just flowed without the need to address us or get our attention by name. Weird I guess, but I didn’t notice it. We’ve never discussed what to call us, but I’m going to raise the issue casually next time we’re together. We want to be called by our first names. She has parents, so “mom” or “dad” would feel awkward to us. Plus, we’re just getting to know her as she and DS met while they were living in GA, and we’ve only been together a handful of times besides the wedding. This is still a very new relationship for us.
I always referred to my in-laws by their first names, but I don’t remember how that started. Definitely no endearing alternatives there.
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I want all of my daughter’s friends to call us by our first name (we are all adults). I think some who have known us since they were little might use Mr or Mrs instead. We called our in-laws by their first names until we had a child, then they became grandma or grandpa first name.
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Both SILs call us by our first names, and occasionally by our grandparent names.
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I don’t know think our kids call us anything. Lol. We just talk. SOs call us first name or Mr… But we say call us first name. I don’t think I want the SO to call me Dad but will accept it.
We have friends that have mid 20 year Olds that call their parents Mommy and Daddy… Is that a thing?
SIL calls us by our first names. H & I never really called our in laws anything - mom & dad were reserved for our parents, and there was no way we would have used their first names. We have no issue with SIL using our first names, and we’re happy that he feels comfortable enough to call us something!
Both SOs use our first names. We’re all adults and spend a lot of time together. Just feels normal to me.
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My 71 year old SIL not only called her recently departed father Daddy … she posts about him regularly on Facebook, referring to him as my daddy.
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Just feels weird to me especially when out in public with them.
Thinking about this Don’t think I really called my mother in law anything. More like “please pass the ketchup” while looking at her… … Think I used her first name sometimes…I knew her since I was 18.
It would be strange to me for someone other then my kids to call me Dad or Father but I will take what’s given. I don’t have any issues with it just doesn’t seem natural to me. I don’t know… 
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I always encouraged D’s SO (now her H) to call us by our first names and he does. H and I did that with each other’s parents. I can’t imagine calling family members "Mr. and Mrs. (too formal). And only my parents were ever Mom and Dad to me.
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DIL will use our first names on the rare occasion that she needs to. My in laws wanted to be called “mom” and “dad” which was a little awkward. I generally used their “grandparent names” when around the kids.
My DIL calls us by our first names. I would guess that’s the most common option.
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SIL uses our first names.
But if we write a card to both of them I sign it from mom & dad.
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