I feel weird to have my kids’ SO call me by my first name. It is disrespectful in my culture.
D1’s husband started to call me momma oldfort, but I think it maybe kind of a mouthful, so he is happy to call me PoPo like my granddaughter now.
D2’s future husband and I have settled on Ma, not Mom.
My sister’s daughter in law also calls her Ma, and my brother in law Pa.
Growing up, I called all my mom’s girlfriends “Ayi” (auntie), never by their first name.
Nope… Lol. I am finding these conversations interesting. It’s the only friend we have whose kids do it but BOTH of their parents called their parents the same.
My husband and I always introduce ourselves by our first names to our kids SO. I’ve asked them to please call me by my first name.
My son calls his in laws by their first name.
My daughter’s future in laws have insisted that she call them doctor and Mrs last name. Once she forgot and doctor corrected her.
On the wedding invitation, my daughter wanted to refer to the parents by Joe and Sue last name. Her future fil insisted that it be Doctor and Mrs Joseph last name. First Names are just an illustration to protect the innocent!
I won’t say what I think about it. 
I love that.
D and SIL refer to all of their friends as “Aunt or Uncle” (first name) when they are with GD. So she will likely grow up calling them that.
Have you met the future in laws? Do they want you to call them Doctor and Mrs last name, too?
We always introduce ourselves by our first name, and that’s what we get called. I have relationships with my friend’s kids, and sometimes they will call me “miss my name,” but mostly they’ve outgrown that.
I do have one friend that even though her parents are deceased, only ever refers to them as mommy and daddy.
My ex husband and siblings called their grandmother grandmother, which I thought was weird. They called her other things too, but not when addressing her.
Probably but I called them by their first names numerous times! I’m definitely not calling them doctor and Mrs. I’ll call them hey you before I did that
My dad’s father wanted to be called grandfather, ended up as faf.
My mother called her in-laws Mr B and Mrs B, which I think at least sounds more casual than last names - you are family now! My in-laws never requested anything and I never addressed them directly because of that. It was very awkward. My DIL calls us by our first names and I am fine with that.
That seems very strange and would be a red flag for me if I were marrying into that family. My son married into a family where both parents are physicians(one a surgeon) and he has always called them by their first names. Doubt most doctors are like this future FIL.
Good luck to you and your daughter!
We don’t plan on spending much time with them. For many reasons.
My future son in law is a nice person who my daughter loves very much.
DiL had the world’s most possessive mother, and I did not want her to feel threatened. DiL calls us by our first names; I sign things for the two of them (like a Christmas card) as “Mom”. She hyphenated her last name (what a pain! It’s inconveniently long, now. But her choice!)
Soon to be DiL also calls us by our first names, but I can see that feels weird for her , having been raised to call her elders Mrs/Mr. I did ask her, should we address things to “Dr” or “Ms” or “Mrs” and she said she had never thought about it. Likely to keep her last name.
We refer to them collectively as “our kids” or “the kids” or “the girls/guys”.
I call my inlaws Mom/Dad unless I am talking about them to someone else, in which case I use their first names. My DH called my late father Dad, calls my Mom by her full name (it’s a longtime running joke between them)
Same here. We had a lot of “aunties” who were not really!
ETA, years later when I was quite grown up, some of these aunts said I could call them by their first name. I just couldn’t do it.
We’ll face this soon enough with my middle child about to be engaged. I introduce myself by my first name to my kids’ friends now, but if they want to use Mr. I don’t mind. Future DIL I think calls me by first name, but I am fine with whatever makes her comfortable. I’ve called my in laws Mom and Dad for over 30 years, and usually I can’t abide them. Perhaps familiarity breeds contempt? My wife avoided calling my parents anything for 5 years until we had the first grandchild, then she used their grandparent names.
I avoided calling my ILs by name (particularly H’s mom) for over 30 years. Absolutely, never ever called them Mom or Dad (for good and specific reasons). After MIL passed away, I felt more comfortable calling FIL by his first name or Grandpa First Name. Now that I think about it, I don’t think my H calls my dad by name.
My DIL and S1’s GF call us by our first names. I told them specifically that was fine. I don’t expect anyone to call us Mom or Dad except our sons.
My daughter calls me Momma, so does her husband.
My son calls me Mom, so does his wife.
All four call my husband Dad. All the in-laws’ fathers are deceased.
D’s wife calls us by our first names. Casual, easy. By the time she came around, the kids’ friends had been calling us by our first names for a while. I started referring to my friends by their first names when the kids were teenagers, and they switched from calling them Mr./Mrs. Lastname to first names as they approached adulthood. This was the norm for our crowd.
I never called H’s parents anything. I referred to them as “your mother” and “your father” and, to the kids, by their grandparent names established by older grandchildren. I would have never felt comfortable calling them any form of mom or dad.
Within our extended family even aunts and uncles begin being called by only their first names as kids become adults. The generations are intermixed in age, and I have nieces and nephews with a 40+ year age range. The older ones and their adult children use only my first name.
For me, this is relationship specific. My MIL is a warm and accepting person who had four sons and always wanted a daughter. When she asked me to call her Mom, I felt honored. We often get mistaken for mother and daughter now, and she is always tickled pink.
FIL is considerably pricklier, and I wouldn’t have felt comfortable calling him Dad. Luckily, he decided on Pop for SO’s and grandchildren, so that works great. Plus, since he has mellowed with age, Pop suits him.
Right now, our kids’ friends and SO’s mostly call us by our first names. If they get serious with someone, I hope what they call us can evolve naturally based on what feels right. It won’t be Mommy and Daddy though—that’s just for our kids❤️.
I grew up in the south where it tended to be the more the formal Mr. & Mrs. Relocated to the west coast in the late 70s. When H & I were engaged I asked my future MIL what she would like me to call her. She chuckled and said her entire married life (she was a widow) she avoided calling her in-laws anything and would just say “folks.” Then asked me to address her by her first name. Both my kids’ SOs call H & I by our first name except some of their closer childhood friends call me Mama aMacMom (which I find endearing).
We told our son-in-law to please call us by our first names and he does so with my husband. I’ll have to pay attention to what he calls me. It would be weird for him to call us mom and dad (and we wouldn’t want him to) since neither kid does.