<p>Discussions of birth control and safe sex should be discussed before young adults are sexually active. I had discussions with my children since they were about fourteen. They were general conversations about sexually transmitted diseases and the things that people could do to protect themselves. Discussions about pregnancy was treated much in the same way at that point. They got the message, and these early talks made them more comfortable about discussing sex as they got older.</p>
<p>I have been telling my daughters since they were 12 that I am not raising grandchildren. I meant it then and mean it now. Recently I overheard one of my 20 somethings that I am not raising grandchildren, so it must have sunk in. ;)</p>
<p>My kids got me watching 16 and Pregnant and now Teen Mom. If I still had teens, esp young ones, I would watch this series with them regularly.
The struggles those young families are faced with is sobering.</p>
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Why are you positive all this is a contraindication to her bcp’s?
Perhaps you should have a conversation with your gyn at your next visit. Write down your daughter’s prescription and have a talk with your gyn.</p>
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<p>I was fairly sure that was deliberate. :)</p>
<p>William Safire used to refer to “my pet, Peeve” in his column. I loved that.</p>
<p>Thank you, Blueiguana, for giving me permission NOT to have that talk!</p>
<p>smoda61 - your daughter gave permission when she allowed you in the room. Nothing wrong with that. What folks need to know is that their daughter can go alone and there is no requirement that Mom be there if she is over 18 - even if it goes on Mom/Dad’s insurance.
Some parents may insist on being there but I think it’s most appropriate for physicians to have an oppportunity to speak with adolescents privately. My kids’ primary care practice starts this during their well visits at about age 12.</p>
<p>If my son asked a question about a sex topic, even at an early age, I answered completely. Early on, I told him I would answer ANY question EXCEPT questions about my personal sexual history. That made it a lot easier to be relaxed and unembarrassed, not being worried I would be asked to disclose whether I had or had not done a particular act.</p>
<p>D’s first BF was age 14 and we talked then. She told me she was saving herself for marriage and the BF was too…I told her if that ever changed we could discuss options but not to be caught in a situation unprotected and to consider both the emotional and physical sides of intimacy. Other BFs came and went over the years, and periodically we talked about whether anything changed…it had not. At 16, she went on BC because of health reasons, but we still talked about the need for condoms if she became sexually active. She has a nurse practitioner that she can also talk with, no judgment, no questions that can’t be asked. After her first pap smear and exam, she said she might NEVER have sex. This year, when she had to go again, she said, WHY? Nothing has changed down there! I bought some condoms at one point and told her to put them in her room and if she never needed them fine. The carpet cleaners recently found them under a couch! She says the RA at her dorm keeps them available right on her door but not to worry she does not need them yet. I feel I have prepared her as best I can. I respect her decision to wait, but will understand if she changes her mind at some point…and I am pretty sure she will tell me because our line of communications has always been open. With my two S’s, their dad handled the talk when they were 10 and 12 because that is when I got pregnant with D. As I recall, he bought a book to show them the mechanics of it all. I remember when we found out D was a girl, younger S said “give it back.” Obviously the talk missed a step or two!</p>
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<p>Am visiting D1 (24 years old) in Boston right now and am staying at her apartment with her and her two roommates. They insisted we all watch Teen Mom last night as I’d never seen it before. They commented the whole way through, as each story progressed, and at one point, one of her roommates looked at me and said, “This should make you feel better that we’d never let ourselves be caught in a situation like this because we’d have to eat crow for all the judgmental remarks we make every week while we watch this.” And yes, I realize 24 is a long way from 16, but even at 24, they absolutely do not want to end up pregnant and unmarried. </p>
<p>And of course, I’m now hooked on the show. Thanks D1.</p>
<p>My D1, Soph or rising junior in college said “Mom I’m on birth control pills,will you call in a … at … drugstore?” I frowned STRONGLY… She said. “OK mom, we can be up front about it, as we have always been about everything, or I can hide it.”</p>
<p>I think my initial reaction was because my baby girl was now a women and maybe not so much needing of my advise. So she did go on birth control pills.</p>
<p>I know that bcp are contraindicated in her case with our family history.</p>
<p>All birth control methods fail. The wise push towards condom use to prevent STD’s has let people to believe condoms are an effective birth control method. A realistic failure rate for condoms is 10-15 % !! So-called safe sex is a cruel joke. That same failure rate would apply for STD’s I would think. They should use two methods simultaneously, but most do not. It amazes me when I see comments from people chastising the unplanned pregnant couple for their lack of birth control use. Baloney. The vast majority used birth control, but it failed. So, before your kids declare that they will never be in that situation, remind them that, yes they will be if they rely on condoms primarily. Pregnancy termination in the case of failure (or abstinence) is the only way they will avoid being parents. So, if they are not willing to abort, Happy Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and Grandparents Day.</p>
<p>Too many 40-something grandparents around here for my taste. “A baby? OK, I’ll raise it!”. I told my kids under NO uncertain terms would I be raising any of their offspring so use BC and use it every time!</p>
<p>We’ve got a sixtie’s mother, with a 25yo son who’s an engineer at an big, well known university (superbundance of appropriate young ladies), that is very anxious because son went on 50% pay to do his hobby, which drops his potential in researching a suitable girl that he can eventually knockup within the next 10years, preferrably before mother reaches 65 so that she can see grandchild grow-up.</p>
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<p>This bears repeating, and it is what I told my kid.</p>
<p>Back in the day, if women got pregnant on the pill it was <em>assumed</em> that she had failed to take it correctly. We were told by the medical profession that the pill simply did not fail. There was apparently no knowledge of drug interactions, and no warnings were given. Just contempt for those whose birth control failed.</p>
<p>The same thing is true of diaphragms. They fail–sometimes because of the woman’s anatomy–even when used completely according to instructions. But when they do, it is assumed that the woman wasn’t using it, or that she failed to follow the instructions regarding use of spermicide, timing of removal, or something else. </p>
<p>One unfortunate downside of this is that women believe that it was somehow their fault, and continue to use the birth control method which may not be effective for them.</p>
<p>parents of girls : what do you advise your daughters regarding Gardasil ?</p>
<p>D had the gardisil series when it was first introduced into the marketplace. We’ve talked about the need to use condoms (still) and other means of birth control (I believe she’s one of those 2-methods-of-bc people.) </p>
<p>My much-beloved choir director died of cervical cnacer when I was 10 and she was 25. Still rememebr the day she died. To me, gardisil was a no-brainer.</p>
<p>Apparently the CDC has approved Gardasil for use with males between 9-26. Has anyone here advised a son to get the vaccine? </p>
<h2>My nieces have all gotten the Gardasil.</h2>
<p>Info on Gardasil for young men. The third link is the CDC info:
[UPDATED:</a> The HPV Vaccine for Boys? | RHRealityCheck.org](<a href=“http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/node/14283]UPDATED:”>UPDATED: The HPV Vaccine for Boys?)
[HPV</a> and Men: What You Might Not Know About Prevention | RHRealityCheck.org](<a href=“http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/node/13800]HPV”>HPV and Men: What You Might Not Know About Prevention)
[FDA</a> Licensure of Quadrivalent Human Papillomavirus Vaccine (HPV4, Gardasil) for Use in Males and Guidance from the Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP)](<a href=“FDA Licensure of Quadrivalent Human Papillomavirus Vaccine (HPV4, Gardasil) for Use in Males and Guidance from the Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP)”>FDA Licensure of Quadrivalent Human Papillomavirus Vaccine (HPV4, Gardasil) for Use in Males and Guidance from the Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP))</p>
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same as Hep B. They got the vaccine. If your daughter was vaccinated against Hep B (and most are at birth now) then there is no reason to NOT get gardasil.</p>
<p>Consolation - yes, and fortunately we now know that antibiotics can interfere with hormonal birth control methods. All young women should be aware of this and be sure to use a back up if they need an antibiotic.</p>
<p>My husband and daughter are on our local rescue squad. Last night, they delivered a baby at our local mall! Anyway, I mention it here in this discussion because the mother was using birth control, so this baby was quite a surprise. </p>
<p>Please remind your kids that no birth control is 100% effective. Last night’s call was a reminder of this.</p>
<p>bookreader - So this woman did not know she was pregnant?
Will we be seeing a Cable TV reinactment of this birth? ;)</p>