What if my professor hits on me?

<p>Most faculty are well aware that unwanted sexual advances or intimidation can end their careers. If you feel that you are being hit on, say to Prof (after class, in the classroom but where others are not present): "I hope that I haven’t misunderstood anything but your comments/behavior make me feel uncomfortable. If I have misunderstood you, I apologize. However in the future, I would prefer that you did not (specify behavior: e.g., comment on my appearance; ask about my lovelife; invite me for coffee, whatever).</p>

<p>The goal is to clearly state your discomfort without embarassing the professor. If they don’t take the hint, go to the dep’t chair.</p>

<p>" Amorous relationships that might be appropriate in other circumstances always have inherent dangers when they occur between any teacher or officer of the University and any person for whom he or she has a professional responsibility (i.e., as teacher, advisor, evaluator, supervisor). Implicit in the idea of professionalism is the recognition by those in positions of authority that in their relationships with students or staff there is always an element of power. It is incumbent upon those with authority not to abuse, nor to seem to abuse, the power with which they are entrusted.</p>

<p>Officers and other members of the teaching staff should be aware that any romantic involvement with their students makes them liable for formal action against them. Even when both parties have consented at the outset to the development of such a relationship, it is the officer or instructor who, by virtue of his or her special responsibility and educational mission, will be held accountable for unprofessional behavior. Graduate student teaching fellows, tutors, and undergraduate course assistants may be less accustomed than faculty members to thinking of themselves as holding professional responsibilities. They may need to exercise special care in their relationships with students whom they instruct, evaluate, or otherwise supervise, recognizing that their students might view them as more powerful than they may perceive themselves to be."</p>

<p>See, <a href=“http://www.fas.harvard.edu/home/administration/sexual_harass_guide.html[/url]”>http://www.fas.harvard.edu/home/administration/sexual_harass_guide.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>"Tufts University seeks to maintain a professional educational environment. Actions of faculty members and academic administrators that are unprofessional or appear to be unprofessional are inconsistent with the university’s educational mission. It is essential that those in a position of authority not abuse, nor appear to abuse, the power with which they are entrusted.</p>

<p>Faculty members and academic administrators exercise power over students, whether by teaching, grading, evaluating, or making recommendations for their further studies or their future employment. Amorous, dating, or sexual relationships between faculty members, academic administrators, and students are impermissible when the faculty members and academic administrators have professional responsibility for the student. Voluntary consent by the student in such a relationship is suspect, given the fundamental nature of the relationship. Moreover, other students may be affected by such behavior, because it places the faculty member and academic administrator in a position to favor or advance one student’s interest to the potential detriment of others. Therefore, it is a violation of university policy for a faculty member or academic administrator to engage in an amorous, dating, or sexual relationship with a student whom he/she instructs, evaluates, supervises, or advises, or over whom he/she is in a position to exercise authority in any way."</p>

<p>From <a href=“http://www.tufts.edu/oeo/univpolicies.html[/url]”>http://www.tufts.edu/oeo/univpolicies.html&lt;/a&gt; (see "Policy on consensual relationships)</p>

<p>Schools should mind their own business if I am giving them money. :)</p>

<p>2 pages! Yes, keep’em comin’.
Oh yeah, diverting back to the issue, I don’t recommend student-faculty dating; it often creates friction in and out of the relationship. It also creates a slight degenerate lifestyle which many of us can live without. In all, keep student-faculty relations strictly professional. I would hate the fact of my mother marrying a 22 year old I would be forced to call father. No sir, I can do without it.</p>

<p>Then maybe you and your mother should part ways…</p>

<p>That’s like saying that Jesus and God should part ways.</p>

<p>Your mother’s romantic life is her own business unless she is in some type of harm (ie: abusive lover, spouse, etc.).</p>

<p>ariesathena, those Harvard rules don’t appear to me to explicitly forbid student-professor dating. Tufts is one example, like the University of California, that prohibits student-teacher dating. But again, most schools do not.</p>

<p>professors can legally have relationships with students</p>