<p>When morality and lust conflict, what should i do?</p>
<p>Are you female or male?</p>
<p>Don’t do anything with a professor. 1. they’re probably old, 2. huge conflict going on that could get the professor fired</p>
<p>Uhm…is this a serious question…?</p>
<p>It should be serious! I had a 71 year old professor make me feel very uncomfortable with statments, and being a little too touchy. I suggest if possible not being in situations where you will be alone with him.</p>
<p>… actual college is not like a porno?</p>
<p>^^LMAO hilarious</p>
<p>if your professor hits on you you should probably tell the head of their department if it is really bothersome</p>
<p>::2. huge conflict going on that could get the professor fired::</p>
<p>Not usually, actually. If it isn’t a sexual harassment scenario, then there is nothing illegal about it. Most schools wouldn’t fire a professor for having relations with a student, providing he isn’t sexually harassing his students on a regular basis.</p>
<p>But asking “what if my professor hits on me?” is like asking “what if I win the lottery?” Unless if you think you’re one of the most attractive women in your class, then I wouldn’t worry about it…and even then, it’s still unlikely.</p>
<p>ever think that the student who claims to be hit on is actually dropping hints/signals that may be leading the professor on?</p>
<p>Most schools have some sort of sexual harassment policy. Generally, you should articulate your feelings (oh, like any student is going to say, “That makes me uncomfortable,” but we’ll pretend), and, if the behaviour does not change, follow the college’s sexual harassment procedures.</p>
<p>Um, Mavin - please, get a clue. I know plenty of women who have been sexually harassed and no one who has won the lottery. Sexual harassment has NOTHING to do with attractiveness; it’s all about power. What, are we in the 16th century or something here? </p>
<p>Most colleges WOULD discipine a professor who is having relations with a student, because it is per se harassment. They tend to (or at least my alma mater did) have policies which strictly forbid professors to date students, and, in some situations, even TAs to date students. </p>
<p>Having been hit on and sexually harassed myself (and not being remotely attractive - I don’t dress well, have no idea how to use make-up, and think styling my hair means putting it up in a bun), I am well aware of how horrible it can be. There is really no way for a student to say “no” and to stop the behaviour. I know that it happened to other students, and, at law school, I’ve heard about this happening to friends while they were in undergrad. Professors do hit on students, and they do it quite frequently. It’s actually really sad.</p>
<p>Can’t give much good advice… just that you should make a decision (and not just do nothing because it’s easier) about how to deal with a professor who comes onto you. If possible, save emails & write down conversations, which will make your case easier to prove. Enlist the help of a friend for moral support. If the professor is grading you in a class (or will be teaching a class which is a hard-and-fast requirement for your major), then wait until the course is over. Above all, trust your gut - you will know when things have crossed a line, although he/she may act as if things are perfectly normal.</p>
<p>Just a theoretical question - are there any cases of sexual harassment by <em>female</em> professors? Of course, there wouldn’t be many, but there’s still a probability… O_o
My middle-aged Japanese professor was dating one of her students (he was in his early 40’s), and they went to Paris for the spring break. Technically, however, it wasn’t a harassment, since it was mostly his initiative… <em>confused</em></p>
<p>no it wouldnt because both are consenting adult.</p>
<p>however, to those who are ruthlessly ambitious and confident in their abilities. It <em>might</em> be beneficial to cultivate this relationship in order to advance your own interests. For example, if this particular prof is somehow able to influence grad school admissions etc continue the relationship while documenting the harassment. That way if he/she ultimately falls out of his end of the bargain u can “go public” with your documented info and claim that you were “scared to speak out” up until now.</p>
<p>Ladies and Gentlemen, as an amateur surveillance quasi-professional(I purchase and update the equipment for my dad’s medium-sized company) I can attest to the fact that there are MANY wonderful products on the market. In order to provide damning evidence of the harassment it might be worth investing in hidden cameras the record remotely and other similar equipment. </p>
<p>Many prominent academics who were otherwise qualified, ie Professor Harold Bloom at at Yale have had their reputations tarnished by sexual harassment.</p>
<p>of course it is a harrowing experience and I sympathize with anyone who has to go through it. </p>
<p>If it were up to me, I don’t think I would have the gumption to try and turn the tables on the prof while I was taking his/her class. Rather, I would document ever single shred of evidence and “out” them when I got my grad school admissions letter. If I were feeling particularly hurt and vengeful I would slap a civil lawsuit on the prof, university, hiring committee, etc etc providing that the statue of limitations hadn’t expired. If the university hired this prof with knowledge that he/she had a sexual harassment history, it would mean HUGE liability.</p>
<p>Ariasthena, as a lawyer, what do you think of this?</p>
<p>… I’m a guy everyone :D. To assure everyone, my question was purely fun and games. I’ve seen ridiculous threads on this forum that received multiple pages of posters; I justed wanted to be competitive also. But this was pretty good, wasn’t it?</p>
<p>It may have just been a joke, but it was a valid question. It happens, you know.</p>
<p>Is it sexual harassment if the professor hasn’t done anything to you physically?</p>
<p>Yes, if the professor is making you feel uncomfortable verbally then it is also sexual harrassment.</p>
<p>That depends. Do you like it??</p>
<p>good question. also, what happens if aliens invade while you’re in the middle of an exam?</p>
<p>::Most colleges WOULD discipine a professor who is having relations with a student, because it is per se harassment. They tend to (or at least my alma mater did) have policies which strictly forbid professors to date students, and, in some situations, even TAs to date students.::</p>
<p>It depends on the school, but most of the time that is not the case. Provided the students aren’t saying that there is sexual harassment involved, there is nothing illegal, against the school rules, or even unethical in a professor dating a student as they are both adults. Now the only problem arising from this which universities do not like is the possible conflict of interest. Some colleges (like UC) have banned professor-student dating, but most schools don’t care, especially if the student is not a student of that specific professor.</p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong. I understand the importance of sexual harassment policies in college (although in the corporate world they seem largely bogus to me). But in regards to student-professor dating, most schools don’t have any policies in place to discipline a professor (even if the practice is frowned upon).</p>