What if your roomate is the exact opposite as you?

<p>I would probably typify the ethos of geekiness or nerdom. I don't party, nor do i drink because i would rather have orange juice or something that doesn't taste like medicine from my persepective. I am a mathematics/physics/ major (i am not decided but one of those), and i like anime. </p>

<p>I do have normal characteristics such as the love for sports, human interaction, nice clothes' etc, but i am afraid to show the other side of myself to my roomate who is a jock, not so smart type of fellow. </p>

<p>I like to talk about school ALOT, i don't know why but i just do. I have to dumb myself down, and pretend to be something i am not when i am in interaction with my roomate and his friends. I feel the need to do this because i don't want to seem anti-social or posit the idea of the fact he might label me as a "nerd" and stop inviting me to parties and stuff.</p>

<p>what should i do.</p>

<p>Hmm, I worry the same, only that my roommate will either me incredibly emo or easily offended, that or really spoiled and rich and girly. Either one won't be good for me. A nerd, a sporty girl, a dorky one, a party girl, any of those would be fine. Just please god don't let her be snobby or depressed.</p>

<p>My roommate freshman year was pretty close to exact opposite. Just be nice, try to get a long. We weren't great friends but we ended up getting along well. You don't have to be best buddies with you're roommate, there are plenty of other people on your floor/in your dorm (and all over your campus!).</p>

<p>I knew my roommate in high school, and we were basically complete opposites in college. It worked out great though.</p>

<p>I'm a business major, he's geology. He has a ton more class hours and labs than I do, and I spend way less time on homework or projects. He has to stay up late sometimes completing labs on Thursday nights, for example. I'm a huge party person, I'm in a fraternity, etc. I'm out every Thurs/Fri/Sat night at a party or bar/club downtown and I don't return until 3am or later sometimes, and sometimes he's still up doing homework.</p>

<p>I come from an upper middle class family and I like to eat out at restaurants several times a week and I don't keep much food in my dorm since I can just go buy some when I get hungry. He has less money to spend, so he can't go out to eat and he keeps peanut butter and jelly to eat sometimes for lunch, for example.</p>

<p>He's really indie and into all that type of music, while I like pop and top40 music. He likes going to small indie concerts, I don't, etc. He had a girlfriend at a school in another state, I didn't get involved in any serious relationships freshman year.</p>

<p>But it all worked out fine. Really. If anything, getting another "frat guy" as a roommate might be more troublesome, in relation to stuff like sexiling or getting a good night's sleep.</p>

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I don't party, nor do i drink because i would rather have orange juice or something that doesn't taste like medicine from my persepective.

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If you have your reasons for not drinking, that's perfectly fine. Not trying to convince you to go against your personal morals or anything, but you've clearly never had a good drink. They do not taste like meds.</p>

<p>opposites attract :D</p>

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opposites attract

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<p>I look forward to drunken sex, in that case.</p>

<p>My roommate and I came from completely different worlds, but we had just a few small things in common at the start: a love of Bones, Colbert, and the Beatles. These things got us talking, and since neither of us went to college with our high school friends (she knew a lot people from high school at our school but did not hang out with them, I knew one person from my high school) we pulled in a girl from down the hall in a similar situation and became friends. We ended up going through our college experimenting phases together, and now we have a group of eight really close friends (four girls, four guys). We each are different people in that group, and we don't do all the same things, (Ex. She's really strict about studying and such, I'm way more likely to go hang out with our friends until two in the morning every night) but what could have been a disatorous combination became a pretty good one because we made the effort.</p>

<p>But our differences are a lot like the ones people here are complaining about.
She is a studier. I do care about grades, but I don't obsess.
She came from a rich neighborhood. I came from an area with a large range of people.
Her parents pay for everything and give her a large allowance. I'm on scholarship and my parents sometimes tossed me forty dollars when I saw them about once every two months.
She loves sports and theater. I love music and writing.
She's from Maryland. I'm from New York.
She lives down the street from a farm. I live twenty minutes from Manhattan.</p>

<p>But we found what we had in common (including a few things I'm not ready to freely admit on this forum) and now her and those other six people are like a surrogate family.</p>

<p>Basically, make the effort. Don't make everything that could be a fight into one, and you'll be happier for it.</p>

<p>You don't have to be best friends with your roommate. I am a nerdy gamer girl that doesn't go to parties, my roommate was determined to make every day of her college life like an episode of sex and the city. We got along well enough most of the time and even had fun together on occasion. But we had nothing in common and will probably never speak again now that we don't live together anymore. It all worked out.</p>

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But we found what we had in common (including a few things I'm not ready to freely admit on this forum)

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<p>what does that mean.....</p>

<p>Well, if you get a really bad roommate (in your case, someone who brings people back to the room for sex or does hardcore drugs) you can always request to switch after a few weeks..</p>

<p>But I found that I really like people who are opposite than I am. You can teach each other once you get past the initial disagreements. Give it a chance. The random college roommate is a part of the experience!</p>

<p>Like other people say, you don't have to be best friends with your roommate, but if there is conflict, let someone know. One of my roommates was my complete opposite. I've mentioned her a few times in the forums: bringing over a new guy each night, sexiling me constantly, huge drinker, kept alcohol in the room [and she was underaged, along with it being a dry dorm], VERY religious and conservative, and just loved to complain about me while I was in the room. Thankfully, she moved out because she found me "offensive."</p>

<p>My freshman year roommate was the complete opposite of me but he was the best one I've had so far and I'm going to be a senior. He was a republican, a redneck, and a southern baptist. I'm the opposite. However, because we had mutual respect for each other, we got along wonderfully. We never got in arguments and we never had troubles living together because we set boundaries at the beginning and kept a level of mutual respect. We aren't the closet of friends but we still talk to each other and go to the bars together occasionally.</p>

<p>My roommate contrasted from me in that she lacked a good handle on the concepts of courtesy and common sense. She moved out after the semester was over though. Best thing she ever did for me was give me a single for the price of a double.</p>

<p>Really, the only thing you need for a decent roommate relationship (besides courtesy and common sense) is a helping of tolerance.</p>

<p>Wow, Why Two Kay, you sound exactly like me except I'm pledging a fraternity this fall and I listen to mostly to the top 40 but I like all kinds of music, but everything else is dead on. </p>

<p>My roommate this summer was somewhat the opposite of me. He was an international student and had all A's in his classes, and was studying every word in those SAT prep books to perfect his insanely good SAT score so he can transfer to an Ivy (even though our university is in the top 20). </p>

<p>He's not the party and drinking type of person like me and I get good grades but I don't study as much as him.</p>

<p>Roommates don't have to be best friends. They just have to live together.</p>

<p>My freshman year, I had a roommate which slept at 10pm and woke up at 7am. Meanwhile, I usually did 3am-10am and sometimes a couple hours later. We were wable to work out a system that made sure both of us got our sleep. He never needed an alarm, and I studied using a small LED light. We had a fan going to make sure that I don't accidentally wake my roommate.</p>

<p>Among other things that my roommate and I were different in were religious beliefs, how often to clean the room, etc. However, I eventually figured out a system which allowed me to shove all my entropy into my own space, so my disorderliness never got to him.</p>

<p>Well, we survived the year without any conflicts as we worked this out and made reasonable compromises on both sides. Sure, I got tired of the compromises, but hey, at least we lasted. To be completely honest, though, it's why I now have a single room and wish to never go back!</p>