<p>i got deferred from my #1 school, but accepted into the one where my parents wanted me to go (i’m not allowed to apply to any others). i want to retake the SATs so i can get into my number one but i’m not allowed, so there’s no way i’m going to get in. i don’t want to go to the other school so i have to, and my parents keep pushing it on me and are saying that it’d be stupid to go anywhere else. what do i do? it’s too late now to apply anywhere else even if i wanted to; the guidance counselors at my high school won’t send out transcripts anymore.</p>
<p>honestly, i’d talk to your guidance counselor ASAP. tell them your situation, explain how much you want to go. talk to them NOW. if they won’t help you, go to a guidance counselor that will. if you end up at a college you hate, trust me: your grades will probably reflect it and then where will you be? you could always transfer out as a last minute option but if your parents aren’t letting you apply anywhere else, i doubt they’ll let you. did they give you any other reasons why you can’t go besides “it’s stupid not to?”</p>
<p>best of luck, seriously. i hope you don’t end up somewhere you hate.</p>
<p>hey, thanks for your response. they said that since it has the major i want and since it’d be close to where they live i should go there</p>
<p>I would consider the college your parents recommend. Sometimes people have a desire to go against what their parents say because they don’t want to be controlled, which is perfectly natural. Again, if you haven’t looked carefully at the college and what it has to offer, I would go back and reconsider. Your parents should have your best interests in mind, even if you don’t realize it. </p>
<p>But if you truly hate the school, you should definitely not go.</p>
<p>well if you were deferred, you still have a chance at RD. you should talk to your parents seriously and tell him that this is your future and you dont want to make it a bad experience by not being able to go somewhere you dont want to</p>
<p>It’s not too late to apply to other schools. I have never heard of guidance counselors refusing to send out transcripts. I don’t think they can do that. Lots of kids will still need transcripts for colleges or scholarship applications.</p>
<p>It sounds like you and your parents are not communicating well right now. Is there another relative or trusted adult friend you can talk to, who could explain to your parents that you really would like to consider some other schools, too. It really should be YOUR decision, not theirs. Of course, you do have to be willing to take the chance that they will refuse to pay for any other college. Will you be able to win scholarships or work your way through? Look into some colleges where you might get good aid, and make a list of reasons those colleges might be a better choice for you than the one your parents want. Also try to keep an open mind about your parents’ choice. Is it really a poor fit for you, or are you just rebelling because your parents are being so heavy-handed about it? </p>
<p>I think you need a go-between who can help resolve the problems between you and your parents. There is obviously a control issue going on here, more than just a decision over college.</p>
<p>Have you cosidered funding your own education? Your parents can’t tell you where to go if they’re not paying. Find a couple of schools with good fin-aid that are safeties but look good, and apply away. Also hit up the scholarships and the like. If all else fails, consider the local schools and trasnfering, even CC and an apartment if you need to. I’ll agree with what someone said earlier that if you’re not happy, your grades will reflect it. </p>
<p>Then again, before you do any of that, really check out the school that you hate, and see if you can’t find some things you like about it. If it’s a close-by school, it shouldn’t be a problem to set up appointments with professors/advisors etc. if you’re really motivated.</p>