<p>I have been reading and occasionally joining in conversation on CC, but as my D finishes her 1st semester at Pepperdine I ask you parents who are stressing and striving for Ivy’s top LAC’s etc. what in the end do you want for your child?
Me…
I want her to be educated enough to present herself well in any circumstance.
I want her to understand the world better, to make it a better place for her children.
I want her love what she does yet not be chasing the almighty buck.
I want her to respect herself so other will respect her.
I want her to always know there is a bigger picture that we can’t always control.
And I want her to find love that will sustain her as I hope our love has.</p>
<p>How does this relate to the purpose of CC … help your child find the school that is best for them, not the “best school”</p>
<p>After a bad start her freshman year she regrouped and transferred my D has found her place at Pepperdine…the rest will come.</p>
<p>Good . Sounds like she has found her place. That’s all any of us want for our kids. IMO There is no unanimity of purpose here on CC other than that. We are all just getting by, the best way we can. Be thankful for your kid’s good result and wish the same for this year’s applicants whether they be to “Ivy’s top LAC’s etc.” or not.</p>
<p>after seeing my daughter twice in 30 days! ( once at thanksgiving & again this weekend)
I want her to have a decent haircut
pants that fit
& to stand up straight
( kinda timeless doncha think? )</p>
<p>Here is what I want for my children…off the top of my head…as I ponder how I will do all I need to do for work, for the holidays…for my family…and friends…</p>
<p>Happiness, joy…
I want them to KNOW that the only thing you can control in your life is your attitude…
I want them to be caring, concerned, involved members of whatever communities they are in…
I want them to be informed…and learning individuals their entire lives…
I want them to stay active…and healthy…
I wish them some financial success so they can enjoy all aspects of the above.<br>
I hope they have peace of mind…and a few dances with LOVE…that will forever imprint their hearts…</p>
<p>I want them to know empathy.
I want them to be independent people and independent thinkers.
I want them to be willing to take risks and make mistakes.
I want them to be able to accept responsibility and consequences for their mistakes.
I want them to be able to learn from their mistakes.
I want them to understand that they are not perfect nor is anyone else. (with the exception of me)
I want them to believe in love, kindness, and human nature.
I want them to never, never, ever, allow their own children to go to Duke.
(Go Terps)</p>
<p>I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance</p>
<p>And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance</p>
<p>I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they’re worth taking
Lovin’ might be a mistake
But it’s worth making
Don’t let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance</p>
<p>And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)</p>
<p>I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance</p>
<p>And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
I hope you dance
(Where those years have gone)</p>
<p>(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)</p>
<p>I have given the beautiful book + CD to my daughters, and this song is one you will often hear blaring at our house. That about sums it up, huh? Thanks for posting it! :)</p>
<p>We have always told them that they should do what they want and what makes them happy. However, this better be enough to support us in old age. We just need a room with a view, that is all we ask! :)</p>
<p>I really just want mine to be happy. Most of all, though, I wish for her the joy of having a child or even several children that are just like her. She’s been such a wonderful pleasure, it’s been so much fun and so much happiness being her mother, I hope she gets to have the same experience.</p>
<p>Audio…gave that book to my daughter when I sent her off to college this year after a very bad heartbreak…was worried she was afraid to “dance” again!</p>
<p>great posts…many the same themes, some just more eloquently stated (thanks maineparent)</p>
<p>Hey JC*…
I think your thread was a nice one to start the day…
one of the things we do at XMAS dinner (friends and family all around the table) is to each name something we are thankful for in the current year… not the easiest thing…especially for the teenagers…they always provide wisecrack answers…but I don’t let them escape from giving us a real answer… anyway, my thought is that you have a lot to be thankful for this year as the holidays approach…having seen your daughter in the wrong place, she recognized it and managed to change her reality…that is an excellent ability and one that will serve her well in her life… enjoy her during the winter break…</p>
<p>maybe even go out dancing? a big nod to Audiophile…I don’t know that I have ever read the words to “I hope you dance”… I recently got together with my college roomates and our spouses in Florida…we went out to dinner and then to a bar that had a DJ…that DJ had our number…and played music that we had danced to in college…the 8 of us hit the dance floor within 1 minute of being in the bar…and we proceeded to dance for 2.5 hours… it was a wonderful experience…the 4 gals have been dancing together for 33+ years…and our hubbies are such good sports…they make us all feel like dancing queens…I will have to get this song for my iPod…</p>
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