If you’re so determined that students take “responsibility” for their educations, which seems to include only attending schools they can afford on their incomes, why haven’t you set the tone by having your own kids attend a cc or commute to a local state school? You’re paying a lot for your daughter and seem to expect to pay a lot for your son as well. It doesn’t sound to me like you want the low cost option that the kids could actually afford on their own, you want the well known school for the low income rate. It doesn’t work like that.