<p>Someone was talking about it in a thread I found about partying. I Googled it and found all of two links pertaining the ball. Someone help me out?
I hear it’s exclusive, but is it necessary to be a legacy? Can you be someone’s plus one or something?</p>
<p>it’s supposed to be a “secret” but it’s anything but. i wouldn’t put too much thought into it, if you haven’t heard of it you probably won’t be invited, and you wouldn’t be missing much. it’s just a bunch of prep school kids/ some college kids, from mostly NYC gathering together to party, dare i say drink. it’s a pretty elitist, WASPy affair. it always happens in winter, usually in december, last year it was dec 20. it starts pretty late, close to midnight. no one really cares too much about these things.
i’m pretty sure there are plus ones, and no it’s not necessary to be a legacy (you couldn’t be a total nobody though, to be “picked”). it’s really not that exclusive.
hope i helped .</p>
<p>Gold and silver
Is really not all that exclusive its of kinda NYC elite day Vs. Boarding school.
Basically if you know someone on the committee (which is made up of kids) they can get you an invite.
It is also black tie, and is very crazy and a good time (the CRH and DA kids always get into fights).
The majority of events like these are benefits for some charity or what-not so I think there is a fee
attached but I can’t quite remember. </p>
<p>Hope this helps</p>
<p>Edit: I just saw I cross-posted with bigcitylights
What he (we should have gender neutral pronoun that is not it) said
About the missing it stuff. Also I forgot to mention the black tie is a comlplete facade
Yes everyone is dressed up but it is a normal teen rager haha</p>
<p>When I went to the NYC Gold & Silver Ball in 1973 the drinking age in NY was 18. No one drove a car, we all took cabs, buses, subways, or walked to get around. It was strictly Black Tie then. No Black Tie no get in. Our parents weren’t about to waste all that $$ for formal dancing schools (Knickerbocker Dancing School) My group, which was entirely the St. Bernard’s alumni (elementary school) all met at Trader Vic’s for dinner and light cocktails. I believe we walked to the party at the Pierre (my memory is fading) for dancing, raffles and soft drinks until 1:30am or so. The band was Lester Lanon for the formal stuff and then near the end a rock band played. There was an African American in my class at St. B’s but he didn’t attend.
When the party was over we jumped into cabs and headed to the watering spot du jour on the upper east side. Mike Malcolm’s or Don Denton’s I don’t remember which one we headed to but it was packed at 1:45am. I think they closed back then 2ish. Then we headed home. I usually walked up Park Avenue, the fifteen blocks or so back to my abode. No worries about muggers, because the Doormen were our pals.
It was a fun night, and all legal. There was nothing secret about it. “Noblesse Oblige” and all.</p>
<p>So nowadays a lot of kids who go to the HADES get invites and if you go to a good NYC private day school ? And it’s basically a Ball for young teens to make connections amongst each other ?</p>
<p>I went to the Gold & Silver Balls in the late 80s—they had winter and spring balls at that time. It was run by a charity called the Youth Counseling League at that time, and I think it was open to anyone. I went to a non-boarding school in the suburbs and I heard about it somehow, but I don’t remember how. I remember it being a lot of fun!</p>
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<p>if you go to sps but aren’t a legacy would you get invited?</p>
<p>You do not have to be SPS legacy but you do need to know someone on the board to get an invitation. Unfortunately the date has passed for getting on the list and the invitations have already gone out. It’s a small Boarding School world and if there is a will there is a way.</p>
<p>fif’s recollection is similar to Sarum’s as he went in '72 with some St. Bernard’s/Salisbury guys. At the time very preppy, blue blood (what was fif doing there?!?). Sarum – it was Mike MALKINS and the other spot was called The Ravelled Sleeve. In those good old days a 16 yr old could get a drink no questions asked.</p>
<p>the people who let you in, they only know your name and you have to present an ID? does it have to be a photo/school ID?</p>
<p>Ummm, it was 1972. No ID’s, just a bunch of preppies with money to spend.</p>
<p>The attitude about drinking was different and NYC was a very, very different city…</p>
<p>Snape Potter thinks that fif is a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>What fif said is true. Plenty of Mike Malkin stories, the place was infamous. Mike was shot and killed, a murder that was never solved but many have surmised why he was killed. I don’t know if CC is the place to reminisce about the 70’s. Lets just be glad we’re still here!</p>
<p>Sarum, </p>
<p>You’re really taking me back. Trader Vics, I’m still nursing the hangover I got from drinking one too many Samoan Fogcutters. My brother basically lived there as a teenager. </p>
<pre><code>Mike Malkins - a New York institution. The last time I went there I was a senior in BS. Went with a couple of friends. I think we were the OLDEST customers in the place.
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<p>Good for you prpdd – fif was thrown out of Traders Vic’s twice that he can remember. Great spot, God bless the old Plaza.</p>
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<p>I think I got invited to this. Or is it different from the Gothams (plural?). I was recruited by the older sister of a good friend to go as her friend’s date. I preferred to watch “Fantasy Island.” Until I read this thread I have secretly regretted having skipped the big society dance in “the City.” I did, however, attend a dance that Whitney Houston was at. She wasn’t a star or anything on a global scale. But even in high school she totally had it going on yet acted like she had no idea. Yeah, but other than that, Saturday nights were for “The Love Boat” and “Fantasy Island.” I might listen to Led Zeppelin if Saturday Night Live was boring…but that should go without saying. That’s right, D’yer Maker didn’t really start bustin’ moves until…well, I don’t think I ever did, but I started watching more “Nova” once I got to college. Anyway, about “The Love Boat” thing…it was so nice to learn that the French really, REALLY love “The Love Boat” re-runs. It’s like their new Jerry Lewis. (This thread should move to Parents’ Cafe, btw.)</p>
<p>I highly recommend Whit Stillman’s movie “Metropolitan” for people who might be curious about this sort of thing. Very amusing caricature.</p>
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<p>is there drinking involved? bump</p>
<p>absolutely not at the event</p>
<p>Sorry to dig this up again, but it is not just a HADES and NYC school thing… I graduated from St. Mark’s and I was invited my sophomore, junior, and senior years because I knew people on the committee. It’s a matter of who you know, not where you go.</p>