What is YOUR definition of PROMISCUITY & How do you FEEL about it....

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<p>1977–New court–new opinions–they might be willing to take the gamble.</p>

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<p>I think most college students have very high standards when it comes to marriage and potential spouses. This is why so many of them delay marriage until after graduation and the chance to establish themselves in their careers.</p>

<p>They don’t feel that they have the time to give to emotional relationships (or more of them would get married while still in school), so some of things that we have decrying as impersonal are really coping mechanisms to deal with sexual needs (tensions, urges, whatever you want to call it) until the time comes when they think they can give the time and effort to devote to a loving relationship.</p>

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<p>That sounds like utter crap. There are kids who play bigtime sports and manage to do very well in school too. I think there is a new mentality and it’s not pretty.</p>

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<p>Welcome to 2006</p>

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<p>I daresay relationships require more time than sports</p>

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<p>I don’t have my hands on the stats - but I think that there was actually MORE sexual activity in teens in my day (1970’s). Anyone want to scout out some stats to back this up? I know I’ve read articles to this effect, but don’t have the energy to find them…I don’t believe that our culture is becoming more and more sexually active and/or depraved, (although tv has certainly become more graphic with its portrayal of sexual activity!)</p>

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<p>So no one in the 1950s had sex…all those full term preemies, it was a medical miracle</p>

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<p>anxiousmom,</p>

<p>Most sociological studies I’ve read on the subject agree with you.</p>

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<p>My D has many friends, maybe of the 20 or so, 2 are sexually active (intercourse), and that includes males and females</p>

<p>Its the FEAR of sex that I find interesting in so many adults, the fear people are having it out of marriage</p>

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<p>Anxiousmom, I also think you are right. The way I remember, things were pretty freewheeling in the 70’s: oral contraceptives were readily available, aborton was legalized with Roe v. Wade, what we termed VD (venereal disease) was easily treatable with penicillin & antibotics, and AIDs/HIV had not yet emerged. So in the 70’s there was sex without consequences: no fear of pregnancy, little awareness of health risks from risky practices.</p>

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Where on earth do you come up with this crazy stuff? </p>

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Better tell your daughter’s friends to get with the program—2 out of 20: what’s up with that? Only two–that’s gotta hurt, CGM!…but don’t loose faith; perhaps, in time, they will get over their dreadful fear of sex outside of marriage (or commitment?) and have at it straight away…as would be proper and fitting to such a dystopia as yours.</p>

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<p>Wow…</p>

<p>Way to read into a post and get things out of it that aren’t there.</p>

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<p>UCLAri…</p>

<p>Sounds as though you are riddled with fear…it’s the fear talking. Let go. Listen to CGM. Don’t be afraid…you are not alone.</p>

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<p>FountainSiren,</p>

<p>You do realize that many adults, when polled, show fear of the idea that American teens are progressively becoming more promiscuous, right? It’s not that far off the mark.</p>

<p>By the way, how is it being as much of a pretentious jerk as you?</p>

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<p>…Passes for wit, I supose, though it seems no more than blunt and mean. Let go of your fear, UCLAri. With fear begins hate and with hate a lack of wit.</p>

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<p>Wit? You call that wit? </p>

<p>Huh. </p>

<p>Now it all makes sense. </p>

<p>But I still find it funny that you can’t really argue any of the points. You prefer to go for the low blows and the ad hominems, and let your “wit” carry you past the fact that you never really have anything to say.</p>

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<p>Back to pontifications about religion with you, tiger…Your simply getting irritable and frustrated at this point.</p>

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<p>So FS, your points are what exactly…</p>

<p>My points are this:</p>

<p>Not everyone is having sex all the time
Some are having LOTS of sex
Some are having none
Adults having sex is not my business, I do not judge a grownup who is sexually active, so long as they don’t hurt themselves or others
I hope teens don’t have sex, but if they do, they are safe and mature enough
There has NEVER EVER been a time in history where there have been the ideals put forth as the kind of relationships many posters here want everyone to have
In the times the people seem to either think the women who are ore free with their favors as it were are making it difficult for men to have good relationships because they think all women should give them sex
That many people have many different views of what sexual experiences are</p>

<p>Just a brief beginning of what I have gleened from this thread and my own thoughts</p>

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<p>As I already posted (#110):</p>

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<p>This has nothing to do with your illusory fear; it has to do with maturity, compassion and responsibility. Although, a healthy fear is a good thing…like a fear of heights: it shouldn’t keep you out of a plane but it might remind you that flying can be a dangerous thing, especially without wings of your own.</p>

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<p>I think the casual sex of the 60’s was more of a political statement taken in the context of the times. Most people still had fairly normal relationships with lots of “shacking up”. If you found someone you liked you moved in together for at least a few months.</p>