What limits do you place on your child's clothing?

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<p>Am I the only one who doesn’t understand this?</p>

<p>My 2 sons are pretty conservative dressers, mainly t-shirts and either cargo pants or jeans. S2 wears a lot of sports t-shirts, and when he was younger he had a couple of favorites from events he played in that got worn until they were pretty much shredded. Even he admitted that he could no longer wear one because it was disintegrating, although there’s no way it would ever get thrown away. As long as it was clean, I let him wear what he wanted.</p>

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<p>^^I’ve never been a fan of super low cuts, though I don’t have a problem with someone knowing what color my bra is. </p>

<p>I admit that I do sometimes wear colored bras with shirts that are somewhat see-through, but I’d never wear a shirt cut so low that my chest just hangs out! That sounds ridiculous, and I never saw that at my school.</p>

<p>On another note, you guys are at least a little better than my mom with how your kids should dress. </p>

<p>When I’m wearing a tank top, she gets continually aggravated that my bra strap is visible. Apparently that wasn’t acceptable when she was growing up. I can’t help but laugh at her for thinking that’s inappropriate compared to the other things kids are wearing these days. xD</p>

<p>A little irk of my own: </p>

<p>I’m continually annoyed at how hard it is to find shorts that don’t ride up my ass. Seriously. Almost every pair of shorts I see in the stores in the junior section (and thus, the only shorts that will fit me) will show the very bottom of my butt if they ride up too far or I bend down.</p>

<p>I think I own one pair of shorts that actually make it down to my thighs. I tend to wear the others with long, flowy shirts that go past them. I need to find a store that sells more decent-length shorts. Ugh.</p>

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<p>My parents never really enforced a real dress code with me though. If it’s cheap enough and I like it and nothing naughty is showing, then they don’t have a problem with it. </p>

<p>Granted, if you can’t tell yet, I’m not really a “show everything I have” kinda person. I prefer longer shorts. No low cuts, (ironically, my dad tried to get me to pick a super low cut, really mature looking red dress for prom. Needless to say, I went with the blue halter top instead.) no “shredded stuff” (it seems to be catching on).</p>

<p>No jeans with actual holes in them. I don’t mind the ones with the patches or roughed up looking spots on them. But actual holes is taking it too far…</p>

<p>Anyway, I’m an adult now, so my they really don’t comment on what I buy. Well, my dad doesn’t. My mom did mention she initially thought the boots I bought the other day looked like “hooker boots” (she later reconsidered). Which makes me wonder what she’d say if she saw actual hooker boots…</p>

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<p>“Am I the only one who doesn’t understand this?”</p>

<p>vballmom, scroll down to the description of A-shirt:</p>

<p>[Sleeveless</a> shirt - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia](<a href=“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleeveless_shirt]Sleeveless”>Sleeveless shirt - Wikipedia)</p>

<p>“In Colombia it’s known as a busca pleitos meaning trouble seeker, in reference to its usage by violent individuals. In Spain they used to be called camiseta imperio (Imperial t-shirt). In the former Soviet Union it’s known as alkogolichka (alcoholic) as it’s often worn by alcoholics”</p>

<p>Ewww…</p>

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<p>I can commiserate about finding shorts that aren’t booty shorts. I was sick several years ago…pretty darn, and lost an unhealthy amount of weight unintentionally. It was suggested I’d feel better buying a few things that fit, instead of having everything fall off. This meant the jr dept and a 00. Please keep in mind, I was sick, so this was not a joyride. Being the mother of teenage boys I didn’t want to wear shorts with my nonexistent rear hanging out! Eddie Bauer & llBean just didn’t make things small enough. It was a stinking pain. Those booty shorts used to bother me…now I understand how stinking hard it is to find anything else!!!</p>

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<p>I don’t get the chest hanging out bit. I have to bite my tongue to stop from telling these girls to put a real shirt on. Everyone KNOWS they have cleavage; we don’t all need to see it.</p>

<p>Should I ever say something to my S after he brings one of these home? Would it be taken as an honest observation , or would I be an old busybody? :D</p>

<p>Edit: Now that I’ve started thinking about it, I’m really curious what HE thinks.</p>

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<p>Ok, well, I guess I don’t get out much…</p>

<p>Thanks BunsenBurner…I think ;)</p>

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<p>Um…I just lived in my uniform 80% of the time. The rest of the time it was jeans, gym shorts, and t-shirts (I’m female). My mom never really told us what we could and could not wear, but my sister and I knew what wasn’t flattering, and I personally was never much into fashion.</p>

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<p>I refuse to shop in the juniors section anymore because the clothes aren’t cut modestly enough (not to mention that i think many of todays junior styles are not mature enough for someone in their early 20’s.) So now I try every article of clothing on in the misses section in every store and maybe one outfit won’t be too mature on me or have TOO much coverage for someone my age. So frustrating. It’s nearly impossible to find a middle ground.</p>

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<p>emaheevul07- my daughters dress appropriately and they buy from the juniors section, as far as that goes * I * buy from the jrs section, because the hip:waist ratio fits better than clothing from womens depts.</p>

<p>A lot is finding the brand & cuts that fit your body type- it takes a lot of trial and error, & I find more clothing I like in secondhand stores or local boutiques- I really can’t stand malls & dept stores.</p>

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<p>I haven’t bought much lately, so it slipped my mind, but I buy clothing from the children’s depts at stores with basic apparel like REI.
I have fleece jackets, long underwear, cool-max shirts & down vests that are childrens sizes- Large- 10-12 fits me and sizing goes up to XL. ( my older daughter does as well- she is so tiny, she has to wear kids snow boots cause she couldn’t find any in womens)
It is a great way to save money- to spend on the things I can’t find in the kids dept, like Chantelle bras.
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<p>I really don’t like the push-up bra look, but I don’t mind cleavage, on my D or anyone else’s. I do object to hearing them called “slutty” though.</p>

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<p>I was just talking about that the other day mousegray- both older D and I are way more endowed than I think God intended, I had a reduction but am still a D- when I was in high school, I was like 36-24-33 & 5’2".</p>

<p>Try and find clothes that fit. :stuck_out_tongue: I had to take in my jeans to get them to stay up & it was practically impossible to find a bra that fit.</p>

<p>I didn’t like being treated like my body type determined my personality & I didn’t like dressing like a nun either.</p>

<p>I would like to think that we as a culture have grown beyond judging people by how they wear their hair, or what body type they have.</p>

<p>I understand that some people are concerned about how their kids dress- IMO, the lowslung baggy jeans that some boys wore, at D’s inner city high school ( although I see them even more in the suburbs :wink: ) were a health hazard ( in case of fire- I was worried about them falling down the stairs!)- but for the most part, the worst I have seen is kids dressing in less than flattering clothing. But so what! I see adults dressing like that every day- shouldn’t people wear what they like as long as it is reasonably appropriate?
If we didn’t buy it, they wouldn’t sell it.</p>

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<p>I apologize if I thoughtlessly offended anyone well-endowed. I do think you have to take your particular body type into account when buying/wearing clothes. A lot of things that look good on models or on the rack don’t look so great on real people. Think of the rear end view of a hefty lady in leggings and a shirt that is too short to cover her butt. If we could only see ourselves as others see us, and all that…</p>

<p>I guess I am of the generation that sees deep cleavage as ok for evening wear, but not daytime. Sorry, but that’s how it was. I am sure my grandmother had even stricter standards, about skirt length, for example, or covering shoulders! Or wearing a girdle so you don’t jiggle! :eek: I’ll stop now…</p>

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<p>My other observation is that it must be tough on guys to concentrate on a woman’s face and what she is saying when her girls are hanging out. Women complain about not being taken seriously, but if they provide a major distraction…that is why “office wear” is what it is.</p>

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<p>I sure hope my D hangs out with guys who concentrate on who she is and what she has to say, not on her face. mommusic, I fail to understand concentrating on the face is so much more complimentary than concentrating on other body parts. Looks matter but it’s an icing not the cake. I hope guys respect girls that they are an individual before being a collection of body parts. Girls have a face but also brains, talents, likes and dislikes. They also (guys as well) like to express themselves by what they wear and dislike to be defined by what old values dictate. If it wasn’t their intention, it should be respected such.</p>

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<p>^^Oh fine. But I can’t believe you haven’t heard girls/women complain about this.</p>

<p>If I looked at a guy’s crotch instead of at his facial area he would think…well I don’t know what he would think.</p>

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<p>Maybe some women have taken literally Walmart’s sign “office wear” over the skimpy little 3 piece outfits with short skirts and lowcut lacy camisoles. Depends on if you want to make a businesslike impression in the office or always want to be taken for the girl who gets the coffee.</p>

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<p>The world would be a nicer place if that ugly word “slut” could be removed from our vocabulary. Referring to young women who dress in a manner one does not approve of with such a derogatory term does not set a good example for our sons and daughters.</p>

<p>I do not set limits on what my children wear, I think for the most part they dress reasonably. I don’t care if they buy jeans with holes. My D’s are not well-endowed and don’t have much cleavage to show, but I would be very unhappy to have the mother of a boyfriend refer to her as “one of these” if she didn’t approve of her clothing.</p>

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<p>If people are gonna be distracted by your body or face- they are going to be distracted- I don’t think you have to show people what your undies look like at work ( or if you are wearing any), & I think it is a little silly what some people wear to work ( for instance the women who work in H’s factory often wear what they would wear to the pool hall on Sat night- or should I say they wear what * I might wear* to the pub, * who knows?* what they wear when they go out.</p>

<p>If I looked at a guy’s crotch instead of at his facial area he would think…well I don’t know what he would think.
I am reminded by a scene from Date Night
( actually four separate scenes) in which Mark Wahlbergs chest is the star.
Even if he covered it up- it would have been hard to miss.</p>

<p>I wouldn’t wear low cut tops or open shoes to a factory- then again I like my steel toed work boots - not to mention I wouldn’t care to have big bellied goombas hitting on me.</p>

<p>I admit I don’t understand " office wear". Why men are expected to wear ties- why women are expected to wear hose and heels. Doesn’t seem very efficient or practical. Skirts are not comfortable to sit in- if the skirt is at all slim ( most flattering), it is very revealing if you bend over or sit down. Heels are dangerous and unhealthy, you can’t walk on the rainy hills of Seattles downtown without putting all your attention to your feet.</p>

<p>Id rather see someone with clothing they can move in, and that is comfortable & clean.</p>

<p>Men are gonna stare whether they are staring at bare skin or not- If I wear a tshirt, I get called miss, even if it comes up to my collar bone, cause they aren’t looking at my face.
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Ive already had a breast reduction- & I told the dr I didn’t want to have to wear a bra again- what else can I do?</p>

<p>I am not gonna wear a chador, I can barely stand to put shoes on when the weather gets cold.</p>

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<p>We are in the lucky side with both son and daughter. They are pretty conservative. It’s harder finding clothes for my DS- ones that aren’t low riders and middriff baring shirts. I have more toruble with the hubby- who used to spend time arguing about “our little girl” who dresses like a boy.</p>

<p>Solved that problem by having DS try clothes on from the girls section- she came out of the dressing room with her underwear peaking out of her jeans and everyone seeing it because the top was so form fitting and short. That was the last time hubby and I argued about where to buy her clothes. Luckily, she is still very much a “tomboy” and we get her clothes from the boys section at Target.</p>

<p>It’s harder though when she has to have “nice” clothes for a band concert.</p>

<p>It was very interesting this summer- I dropped her off for field hockey camp and 99% of the girls were wearing bootie shorts and middriff baring tank tops. Then my daughter in her surfer type board shorts and long t shirt. Wiht her short hair, and loose shirt, several people were looking at her and thought she was a boy. :p</p>