I am home doing housework today and bored, so thought I would start a new thread! What bothers you, that might not bother your friends? I will admit, most on my list involve my husband, but after 40 years of marriage, I am sure there is plenty of things I do that drive him nuts!
When my husband make coffee in the morning, and yes, I appreciate he does it, he always pulls the coffee maker out to the edge of the counter, with the handle pointing out. I have bumped into the handle a number of times as the silverware drawer is right there. I have requested several times that he turn the handle back a bit, and that the coffee maker does not have to be at the edge. I have now given up and just move it every morning when I get my coffee.
Same husband that does the dishes after dinner many nights, stacks all the dishes in the sink and will put the pots and pans on top. I have had a few broken/chipped plates and can not get to the drain due to all the dishes. I prefer all the dishes and pans to go beside the sink and I wash one at a time unless a pot needs to soak.
Pantry door is always opened. He figures he will return the item he took out at some point, so why close it!
Leaves on every light in the house. I go behind him and turn them off; not as an energy saver, I just hate tons of light on.
My 23 year old coworker hums and sings to herself a good part of the day. For some reason, that is all I hear and it drives me batty.
People that jiggle their legs while in a common area such that your seat jiggles.
I have a coworker I rely on and he needs to make decisions and contribute in order for me to complete my work.
We have very different working styles. He is a blur of energy and often throws things together at the very last minute. Heās not very good with details.
I like things to be taken care of well ahead of deadline, leaving room to fix anything that is amiss. I would rather email than talk on the phone. He is phone all the way.
His working style makes me feel like it creates more work for me, and it can make me cranky.
Iāve observed that others in the organization are either unbothered, or shake it off, so Iām trying to learn ways to deal with it so I suffer less.
Trendy/odd phrases - ābad actorā , āempathyā (when they really have not been āin that personās shoesā), āsolutionizeā (what is wrong with āsolveā?)
I also have misophonia, āthe unreasonable emotions that well up inside some of us when we hear certain repetitive noises being produced by those around us.ā I canāt stand the sound of someone chewing and have to either excuse myself or have it neutralized by some other background sound. I know this is a condition rather than some random thing, but it drives me crazy. (And weāve discussed this elsewhere.)
The list of things DH does that annoy me are too numerous to fit in a reply box, but I do love him, so I choose to consider them charming. For now.
@snowball I have the opposite problem with my husband and it drives me crazy. He would live in the dark! I was raised to put lights and lamps on at dusk so that the house felt warm and welcoming and he is Mr. Energy Efficiency and never puts on the lights unless absolutely necessary. I also have vision problems in low light levels, and it is a constant source of irritation to me.
@Marilyn I guess I was bored 2 years ago also!! Yes, he still annoys me, but he would say the same about me :neutral:
@MomofWildChild I donāt mind lights, but when he changed all our can lights to brighter bulbs on the main level, and turns everyone on while we are watching tv, I go and turn them down. We put dimmers on them for a reason. I donāt mind all on while doing work/cooking etcā¦, but for relaxing, I prefer the tableside lamps.
Married for 32 years and I still cannot stand her very loud [trust me on this one] yawns in the family room after Iāve gone to bed if she decides to stay up and watch something on the telly. Canāt close the bedroom door or the cats will complain. I limit myself to a gentle [for me] reminder every year or so. Seems to work for a few months. Iām sure there are things I do that annoy her just as much. <3 to all.
@MomofWildChild , I just started typing it when I started on Forums because everyone did it, I remember asking what the letters stood for. Like I said itās easier to not include it, actually, and easier to read.
I will read all of these later, but the thing that drove me CRAZY was when my husband went through a high pitched whistling phase. He whistled ALL THE TIME. When he woke me up about 5 AM with his whistling in our bedroom I screamed at him (not proud of it, but he woke me from dead asleep). He realized he needed to stop, and heās trying. He likes ānoiseā - singing, whistling, listening to music and I like quiet (donāt mind listening to music sometimes, but I donāt need to hear/make noise 24/7.
OK - vent over.
Me, too! Donāt call me when you can email or text! Probably because I have worked on the phone for so many years. But also because it interferes with my multi-tasking.
I make medical devices for a living. My pet peeve? When I gingerly remind my team that itās a great goal to try for results that mostly make sense and are usually correct, yet without fail they submit sloppy, thrown-together documents full of low-hanging fruit types of errors. And when I ask, āreally terribly sorry, Iām sure itās just me, but help me understand what this sentence means, please?ā they are unable to explain it. And then they go to HR and my boss and complain that I have unreasonably high standards and I make them feel āunsafe.ā And my boss and HR tell me that my standards of quality make people uncomfortable and I need to demonstrate compassion for everyone regardless of their competence.
Over the past few years I have obsessively reminded myself every day to lower my standards, donāt worry about mistakes and errors, just smile and nod and tell them theyāre doing a great job, keep my mouth shut, etc. so that I donāt get into trouble again.
Iām tired of having to apologize and suffer negative health effects from the shame of wanting my departmentās work to make sense and be correct at least 80% of the time. Because you know, medical devices as opposed to like, hair scrunchies?
Just came to say that I am in total agreement about the DS, DD, etc. Yuck! Itās just D, S, H, etc for me. Maybe itās me, but that āDearā always sounds so sarcastic, even if itās not meant so.
@snowball- I think we are sisters from another mother and/or married to twins. My DH leaves lights on all the time and leaves pantry and cabinet doors open. He also puts stuff randomly in the dishwasher that isnt really in any of the racks and I always have to rearrange the things in the dishwasher. I donāt always see if he happens to start the dishwasher, so we have lots of chipped dishes and bowls.
The leg bouncing/jiggling thing drives me NUTS. I literally have to block it with my hand from my line of sight if someone is doing it.
The other thing that bugs me is when people are constantly late. Whatās the message to the people waiting- that their time is more important?
Last annoyance- my DH likes to listen to podcasts when we are in the car and he listens to them at 1.5 speed. Sounds like the Chipmunks! Arggh!
No H any more, but toward the end even his breathing bothered me, so I guess that was a sign.
I am also with @jym626, I hate it when people are late, and that includes professional service people. My tolerance is around 15 min. It doesnāt include when people have a legit reason and text me to let me know (traffic in NYC is not a legit reason).
It bothers me when I am having a meal with someone and the person talks about all the stuff they canāt eat. I want to tell them to just order something they could eat and stop telling me why they donāt eat meat, wheat, etc. Of course, the worst is when they try to tell me why I shouldnāt eat certain things (like bacon because it could cause cancer).
What bothers you, that might not bother your friends? I will admit, most on my list involve my husband, but after 40 years of marriage, I am sure there is plenty of things I do that drive him nuts!
