I’m still getting mail for my 28 and 26 year olds, they’ve been out for 2 years.
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I have followed up on mail forwarding my whole adult life (I’m 54 and have lived in six states since I left for college at 17), and sometimes my dad still gets mail for me.
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What’s mail forwarding? For that matter, what’s mail?
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Forgive me, I’m quite old.
I often get mail for my parents who have been dead for 6 and 2.5 years. I still get mail for the previous home owners who haven’t lived her for 15 years and I believe are both dead (he definitely is).
In fact, I get collection envelopes every quarter from the church for my mother. Hmm, her funeral was at that church, they should know she’s dead.
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But perhaps they believe in the afterlife…
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Or in contributions from the grave.
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I do too, every year I get a letter from her catholic high school letting her know what classmates would be celebrated at the annual newly deceased mass (I’m sure there is a nicer name for it), 9 years ago my moms name was on that list. Don’t even get me started with the 3 Viking cruise brochures I receive each week, they really did enjoy that cruise 30 years ago.
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The ultimate regift! Just let the book get passed through the generations, unread!
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Don’t pay a surprise visit, unless you want to be disappointed by their lack of enthusiasm at your suggestion for a nice Saturday night dinner.
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And, dads, don’t show up on a random Saturday morning to treat your daughter to breakfast and be shocked to find her single holds more than one occupant.
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Following on from that, many parents may not have noticed that boxes of condoms are ubiquitous and freely available.
So what not to do is freak out that college kids will avail themselves of the freebies.
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Oddly, I remember my RA saying (because I guess the bowl was emptied quickly), “these aren’t for personal use” and I was like um…that’s exactly what they’re for. I think she meant, they shouldn’t be the only source (?)
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Don’t bring your child home every weekend because YOU miss them. (Even if they miss you, don’t bring them home every weekend!) Similarly, don’t go visit them every weekend. You’d be surprised how many parents around here do this.
We stuck with roughly once/semester, maybe twice if there was a special reason. We were 2:30-3:00 away, so just a nice day trip to take them out to lunch, walmart or other necessary shopping, and back home. Did not want to interfere with their evening plans!
And this was a lot more than my parents visited, which was a bit fat zero times, except for move in day and graduation. They were 4 hours away…
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I totally agree.
I think D26 will end up attending college ~ 1.5-2 hr away from home. I’ve already told her that she’s not allowed to come home for a visit for at least the first 6 weeks of the semester…because if you’re at home on the weekends a lot, you’re going to be missing out on prime time to connect with all of the other students you’re living with. And it’s through those spontaneous things like late night snack runs (or whatever) that you bond with people.
And you can’t find “your crew” if you’re escaping home every weekend.
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There is a reason schools schedule their parents’ weekend when they do as it gives students enough time to acclimate and settled in. We told D that she wasn’t allowed home and we wouldn’t come see her until parents’ weekend.
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A parent just asked, in a parent page, if it would be an issue that they scheduled a family vacation in November, if their student could just makeup the work. Incoming freshman. Parents need to wait to schedule vacations until they know their student’s schedule. Another parent recently posted their student will miss mandatory orientation due to a family vacation scheduled late august.
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Oh good grief!
Earth to Clueless Parents:
This isn’t high school anymore! The professors won’t make an exception for you just because you want your adult kid(s) to go with you on a nice vacation during the academic year.
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Why I always travelled with my baseball bat.
Funny enough, when D’s boyfriend came to our house for Thanksgiving the first time, I had my guns (unloaded) on display and I asked him if he wanted to go to the trap/gun range. He took it all in good humor, and I am so glad he will be my SIL next week!
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We never surprised our kids - but never had an issue with a nice Friday or Saturday night dinner. They’re big fans of free food and the parties don’t start until way later anyway! It’s also how we met most of their friends - free dinner and they came running.
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