What parents say versus what they do, and what their children learn...

Here is a similar, but somewhat longer with somewhat more detail, piece from Hagerman, in Time:

http://time.com/5362786/talking-racism-with-white-kids-not-enough/

Interview of Hagerman in The Atlantic:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/white-kids-race/569185/