We wouldn’t let one child apply ED to Middlebury, and is was specifically because of the cost. She went to a lower ranked but very good university with merit aid, found a good fit, got a great education, did very well, and then went to a very highly ranked and more importantly very good graduate program that was also a good fit for her (and again did well).
Times multiple children, plus additional expense for a graduate degree?
I do not see the cost of the expensive “no merit” private schools as worth it for a bachelor’s degree unless the parents are either very, very wealthy, or poor enough to get very good financial aid. Maybe there might be an argument for a student with a major where a bachelor’s degree is likely to be the last degree (such as engineering). If graduate school is likely, I do not see the point.
I know a very, very small number of families where spending $400,000 for a bachelor’s degree would be no hardship at all and would leave enough in the bank to pay for both siblings and graduate degrees. In contrast, I know a lot of families that are in the so-called donut hole, where they make enough to preclude need based aid but not enough to be able to pay $400,000 for a BA or BSc without worrying about it. Quite a few of them have academically very talented children.
And those of us in my family who got graduate degrees (five of us if you include a sibling), and some friends that we know who got graduate degrees, have all reported that very good and highly ranked graduate programs have students from a huge range of undergraduate schools.
You are not. I am with you 100%.
Some hiring managers have noticed. I used to see quite a few coworkers from MIT and Stanford. Now I see equally good coworkers from U.Mass and Rutgers and even more so from universities outside of the USA.
In the long run I think that the graduates make the school more than the school makes the graduates. I am seeing excellent students going to affordable universities, graduating four years later, and doing very well.
I will admit that for PhD programs things are very different. Given that at least in my experience good STEM PhD programs in the USA are fully funded with a stipend, here the top students can afford to attend whichever schools have a strong program in their major and are a good fit and that they can get accepted to. Also there are some very good one year master’s degrees. While I do not think that I would shell out the big bucks for four years at Middlebury or Stanford, I might very well shell out the big bucks for a one year master’s degree (if either daughter had wanted to do that).
That is what I have seen. This includes some very strong students.