Will your mother pay for you to apply to schools that are not on her list?
University of New Hampshire is in southern New Hampshire. Canada is north. And itās not really that close. UNH is closer to Portsmouth NH, or Concord. But Durham, where UNH is located, is a charming college town.
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No idea. Hopefully I get into my EA schools. Iām not sure if EA gives an advantage or not
I think if I ever did apply somewhere and never told her sheād get mad too. So I canāt like go behind her back and attend if I get in. Iām going to find random rankings and paint a better picture for her
Your EA schools are reaches (schools from the list posted awhile ago).
The only way to apply to safety schools without her knowing is if somebody else pays.
Some colleges will give application fee waiversā¦if you ask.
Your bigger issue is that your parents will need to complete your financial aid application forms.
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Yeah but sheād be mad if she ever found out. Itās okay, Iāll just ask for forgiveness and lray
Why though. Iām above Spelmans SAT and GPA, same with Vermont , same with Howard. Iām working on getting better ECs. What more do I have to do?
Spelman has an acceptance rate under 30%. Howard is about 35%. Those are not safety schools for you, imo.
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Spelmans early rate is 50% and I feel like that makes it closer to a target rather than a reach and Howardās is 64% for early.
I think thatās a pretty decent chance
And what about Agnes Scott?
From 2022
Agnes Scott College has an acceptance rate of 67%. Half the applicants admitted to Agnes Scott College who submitted test scores have an SAT score between 1130 and 1350 or an ACT score of 24 and 31. However, one quarter of admitted applicants achieved scores above these ranges and one quarter scored below these ranges.
Okay so Iām in the middle 50%. If I increased my score a bit Iāll be fine.
Will your mom buy you a college guide through Amazon if you ask her to?
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Thereās Agnes Scott at 67% though. Maybe still not technically a safety, but a low match at least.
I feel as if Atlanta could be a really great destination. Urban, diverse, far enough from home but a convenient travel hub, LGBTQ+ friendly, and has lots of colleges (with consortium cross-registration privileges among them). Plus, given your thoughts about a public health career, I think you could craft a really good narrative about wanting to intern at the CDC headquarters there, aim for an MPH at the Emory School of Public Health, etc. etc. (Even if youāre not truly settled on career plans, which you honestly shouldnāt be at this point, a good narrative goes a long way.) You could apply to a whole cluster of schools there: Emory as a parent-satisfying reach, Spelman as the elite womenās HBCU (which is really not so LGBT-leaning that your uncle should be upset, plus, show them the long list of elite schools where you could do an exchange semester from there), Agnes Scott as a diverse womenās college with an exceptional public health program in collaboration with Emoryā¦ and even some potential super-safeties like Georgia State and (co-ed HBCU) Clark Atlanta. This could be a cohesive application strategy for you, with a lot of selling points for your family to like (while keeping the selling points you care most about to yourself).
Even if Mom isnāt excited about Agnes Scott as an EA school, you can tell her that you have to apply EA1 to be eligible for merit scholarships (which is true).
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It might be time for a three way or four way sitdown with you, your mom, your guidance counselor and the school social worker (if you are in a public school, even if there isnāt a fulltime social worker on staff, there will be one or more to cover high schools in your district.)
Even the most stubborn and out of control parent gets a little meek when the āauthoritiesā start explaining that no, she canāt make you marry someone against your will, and no, she cannot stalk you and visit you three times a week in college- any college- without being banned permanently from campus.
Worst that happens is that she gets enraged and insists you apply to the schools on her list- fine, apply. None of them are bad choices, even if they arenāt your first choice, especially if sheās prepared to pay. Best case is that she realizes that part of the immigrant experience is adapting to a different culture- and in THIS culture, someone has to give consent before they are married, and colleges do not allow parents to trespass i.e. show up in a dorm room.
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To me they are targets, not safeties. Thatās just me and of course you may get in.
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I donāt want to fuel anything if Iām being honest. She talks to me about college enough. Iām going to try and shift attention to Spelman to ED to
ED? That will be a binding acceptance if you are accepted. Spelman also has EA.
| Spelman College Admissions Facts At-A-Glance | |
|---|---|
| Early Decision Acceptance Rate | 29% |
| Early Action Acceptance Rate | 51% |
| Average GPA | 3.9 |
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If I apply to enough matches odds are someone has to let me in, even if itās a gamble.
Sheās on not so great terms with her family in Atlanta so thatās even a deterrent from going I guess.
Thank you so much: Iām saving this:
Which sheās like really into so Iāll try that
They have something with UPenn (half hour from me) thag i could promise to apply to but never do
I was told here that this was a reach: or maybe that was UGA. Iām not sure which one my aunt went to but I doubt legacy works in that way anyway
Is Agnes Scott binding? I thoguht it was