Oh so what if I marry someone and then divorce
No; I refuse to do foster care
Emancipation looked like jt was too much for what
What am I supposed to do with that 
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Iāll figure it out ig
What is this?
Then you are no longer married. And colleges are well onto this sort of scamming.
It, Iām on my phone so a lot of words are spelt bad.
Oh, sad. I shouldnāt have children, I would be a bad parent. Well maybe Iāll find someone I like
The regulations clearly state that if the only reason you were considered independent was because you were married, getting divorced immediately returns you to dependent status.
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Oh, I donāt know what Iām going to do then.
I know this is very difficult now, but it is very likely that once you are in college, living in a dorm, busy with classes and study groups and clubs and new friends, that it will all get a lot easier. There will also be adults at the college who can help you with any problems that arise, from on-campus medical doctors and mental health counselors, as well as academic deans, chaplains, and career counselors. I really think that you will be in a much better situation at that point.
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OT is medical AND creative. You have to imagine activities, create objects or toys that help rehabilitate, regain mobility, agility, etc.
Psychology can be appliied to various fields - you can work in prisons, in schools, in hospitals, in private practice, even for businesses (marketing and advertising requires Psychology) as well as videogame companies (those games arenāt addictive by accident) 
Psychology is a great major and you can add a minor in statistics or cognitive science to boost your chances of employment or grad school down the line. Itās also a major that can be used for med school if your mother asks.
You can just indicate Psychology on your application, keeping in mind that once youāre on campus youāll be asked again, can say ANYTHING including that you donāt know and want to explore, and professors wonāt talk to your mother because youāre 18+ andā¦ theyāre professors, not teachers: They donāt talk to parents.
Try to talk to your GC before they meet with your mother. Have them agree to tell your mother that you need 2 safeties (colleges youāre 100% sure youāll get into), 2-3 likelies (colleges where your odds are 70-60%) , 2-3 matches (colleges where your odds are 50-50 at best). Keep in mind your mother will actually place colleges that are reaches in the match category, matches in the likely category, likelies and matches in the safety category.
Rowan and Agnes Scott are likelies, UConn, Susquehanna, Juniata are matches, Howard and Spelman high matches.
I would recommend colleges like Muhlenberg, Dickinson, Wheaton MA, St Lawrence, Hobart&William Smith, Mount Holyoke, Fordham. All have good names among the upper class.
Could Drexel be of interest ? Itās got cachet and location for your mother, and you may like the alternate semesters, one at school, one at your co-op, one at school, one at the next co-op, etcā¦which also means you donāt have summers at home 
Safeties would be Roanoke, Sweet Briar, Mary Washington, Elizabethtown, West Chester U, St Joes, Duquesne, Manhattan College, The New School, Goucher
(Check out all these safeties and suggest about 4 or 5 to your mother - explain to her that you " wouldnāt be going āof courseā but you need to build your list from the bottom up and these would be the bottom of your list, does she approve, bc if she does you can move to the more important next steps"
In reality, the safeties are the most important ones because you have to like them and see yourself there - theyāre your escape hatch if all goes wrong.)
Your mother may be okay with Penn State UP (match) and Altoona (safety): you could apply to UP Summer Start, itād mean starting in June instead of stayibg in NJ :), with Altoona as the mandatory alternate campus, and major: Psychology, which allows you lots of pivots).
The 2 top public universities in NJ are TCNJ and Rutgers- is there one you like better than the other?
You know some apps can be sent from the collegeās website and are free? No need to go through CommonApp. Thereās also coalition app. Neither would need to go through your mother even if she controls your CommonApp.
I hope you can find a hotline or counselor to talk to because thatās a lot of pressure. 
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I should mention that my dad lives in Lancaster so Juniata and Elizabeth town are out of the picture. Itās his primary residence and heās still legally my my main (they both are) caretaker so I donāt know how that affects tuition.
Iām just going to apply to schools. She hasnāt stopped talking about it two weeks straight like itās intensified. She just yelled at me how Iām discouraging her and all of that because I donāt believe Princeton is a match school and Iām not trusting in the religious divine.
Iāve looked at Drexel as Ik people whoāve went there but Iām not sure if itās for me. But I appreciate your insight and suggestion. I know if their co op programs and many of my friends got into the 5 year engineering
I did make a mini list based of peoples recs
OT sounds fun. Iāll definitely be looking a lot more into it now.
How much would I have to raise my SAT score for it to be more attainable? Like all the schools overall
I think the CUNY? Schools have their own. But yeah Iām going to try and make the application process as pain free as possible
Iām going to try and push it a bit harder but I donāt know. I brought up smith to my English teacher and he thought it was outrageous (he has a weird thing with the Philadelphia and Massachusetts gayborhood) and thought I would like the school as I think he grew up around that area. I know itās like a hard reach for me but that and Vermont is what I really care for right now
Iām not sure about counseling. I know I should put I donāt want to spiral and be depressed. I just donāt think about my problems. I think Iād completely give up.
Oh and Rowan is actually 15 minutes from my house so thatās a definite no. Drexel is a half hour. I think a lot of people assumed Iām from North Jersey
Can you please clarify costs? Will your parent only pay for a reach school or will he/she also pay for a SUNY or NJ public?
I think sheās a lot more willing to pay for a reach school. Iām going to be honest Iām predicting her and Iām not sure how sheād react if she had to pay for anything Ā« less Ā» than UConn
Why UConn? UConn is a perfectly good school, but what made her pick it over Rutgers or SUNY Geneseo (a strong school that is part of the tuition match)?
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I donāt think she understands the reputation outside of NJ. Itās subpar to Rowan in her eyes and even then.
She also literally just looks at acceptance rates
She thinks Rutgers is subpar to Rowan? Show her the acceptances on CC and maybe she will change her mind (nothing wrong with Rowan).
I think itās the fact that half of NJ isnāt going to Rowan over Rutgers too. Weāre on campus a lot for music or whatever (I hate Rowan and Glassboro with a burning passion) and cooper medical school is attatched which is also where I did my summer medical program: idek I think itās the fact not as many people are accessing it. Idk ask my mom.
I think the fact like what 40k people go to Rutgers? And Rowanās like a third of the size. Iām genuinely guessing. Maybe becuase my uncle on my dads side went there? He harasses her (bad way, heās creepy) so maybe she just feels anybody is going there. I couldnāt tell you
Please watch the text-talk and profanity, even if itās disguised in text-talk. Your post was edited.
Itās best to remember the majority of people trying to help you are adults so avoiding text abbreviations would make it easier for many readers.
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Okay Iām sorry. I didnāt know that was a rule. Iāll also try and stop using abbreviations. Some of them just happen more naturally than others.
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OP you need some safety and likely schools because the schools your mother insists on are big reaches - except maybe UConn. I hope your guidance counselor can help with this discussion. In the meantime please make sure to add a few schools that have been mentioned. Hopefully your mother is ok with that.
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I put down places like Ithaca College and Loyola Maryland. Iām going to also probs go with my community college as well. I donāt know if Agnes Scott or City College is a target or not.