What should I do?

TL;DR: ADHD kid struggles her first year but makes an awesome comeback and is actually really smart. Does she have a shot at Ivy Leagues?

I’m currently a junior at one of the most competitive public high schools in the nation. For us, highschool doesn’t start until sophomore year, so my freshman year grades aren’t factored into my GPA.

Growing up, my teachers knew I was a very bright student. I consistently performed well on standardized tests and exhibited a high intellectual maturity at a young age. However, I was forgetful, easily distracted, blurted out information, and had the attention span of a goldfish.
We know now that I fit the profile of a “twice exceptional” student, or a student with an extremely high intelligence and IQ but a learning disability that inhibits their performance in school. In my case, the learning disability is ADHD, and it’s not the “omg yeah i’m adhd too!” thing that everyone claims to have… no, it’s the kind where I have to take tests in different rooms, get outlines for notes in class, I get extra time on the ACT/SAT, and I’m heavily medicated.

My ADHD significantly hindered me from performing above average in school, which frustrated me and made me really sad. But since I was performing pretty well (decent, no red flags) in school, nobody saw any reason for concern. I just needed to “work harder” and “pay more attention”, but obviously I was working my butt off and trying extremely hard to pay attention. So we didn’t find this out until after the disaster that was my sophomore year happened.

Anyway, sophomore year rolls around and I was like “THIS IS MY YEAR! I’m going to get straight As and do super well and be amazing” except a heavy course load, 2 high school sports, debate, band (trumpet) speech, and quiz bowl kind of posed a challenge. Except I KNEW that I could do it. I knew I was smart enough to succeed in high level courses and still be able to do all these extracurriculars. But I wasn’t performing well at all. This is what my grades looked like:

AP European History: B+ first semester, B second semester
Ceramics: A
AP Psychology: B+
Honors Chemistry: B+, C-
English: B+, B
Precalculus: B, C+
Band: A, A
Spanish: A, B

To top it off, I wasn’t doing well in any of my extracurriculars. So around halfway through my first semester, I kind of spiraled out of control. I knew I had the potential to do well, but I was failing at everything. I was frustrated and confused and I had no idea what I was doing wrong. I’d leave every class feeling stupid because I couldn’t retain any information, and I’d get frustrated because I’d have to go home and re-teach myself everything that was already taught in class. Add to that the fact that I always ran out of time on tests, took hours to do homework that should have taken 15 minutes, and was consistently called out in class by my teachers for not paying attention/getting caught day dreaming. I felt like no matter how hard I worked, I couldn’t succeed at all. I worked myself almost to death sophomore year which led to multitudes of mental problems…

I began self-harming, developed an eating disorder, hooked up with random guys, and was suicidal. Yeah, I know… things were pretty bad. Which kind of explains the plunge my grades took second semester. I didn’t sleep or eat, which had effects on my sports and other extracurriculars as well. I straight up wanted to die. I almost acted on these toxic thoughts the summer after sophomore year ended, and found myself at the hospital for intensive mental health treatment which lasted about halfway through my first semester of junior year.

It was at this point where I got the ADHD/twice exceptional diagnosis, which explains a lot of the struggles I faced and my grades sophomore year. After getting on a 504 plan and getting medication for anxiety, depression, and ADHD, things started looking up. I began to love myself and started to figure out how to do school and cope with my disability. My first semester grades for junior year were:

AP US History: B+
AP Physics: B
Band: A
English: A
AP Calculus BC: B+
Spanish: A

Of course, my improvement is gradual, but currently I have all As (it’s about halfway through second semester, and I added AP Comparative Government to the list). My SAT score is a 2310 and my ACT is a 34, but I took the ACT blind and I have another one coming up.

So my question is: Do I still have a shot at selective schools? Or did my rough sophomore year ruin that for me? Also, how much of this is okay to tell colleges? With the stigma behind mental health, I’m not sure if my story would scare them off or anything. However, it does provide an excuse for my low GPA sophomore year. Also, does ADHD make me look different to colleges?

Thank you so much, I know that was a lot, but I need answers!

First, stop being fixated on Ivy schools. There are a ton of amazing colleges that don’t have Ivy status. Now accpet that piece of advice and feel the weight lift off your shoulders. Second, when your counselor writes your rec, they will undoubtedly mention the undiagnosed adhd which coincides with your drop in grades. You must discuss with your counselor how you would like this handled. Third, I would not call attention to it yourself. Too many kids feel they must explain their weak points, their low grades, their problems. Don’t do it. It can come off sounding like an excuse, or they might think you won’t be able to handle the rigor of an intense academic environment (be honest, can you?) Fourth, they want to admit people they like, so make your essay upbeat. It is probably okay to mention that you went through a hard time, but don’t make that the focus. The focus should be on who you are now, what makes you unique and why they should admit you, and what is great about you.

I am sure you can get into some great, amazing colleges with your stats. Will they be Ivy League? Maybe, maybe not. The same is true for everyone, including kids way more qualified than you. Once you get to the gate of the top schools, it’s anyone’s guess who actually makes it through the gate. I wouldn’t waste anymore time repeating either the SAT or ACT. Your scores are both fantastic, any slight improvement you will not be beneficial at all. You are already in the top 99% with those scores. If you don’t get in with 2310 or 34, it WILL NOT be due to your test scores. Use that time to focus on other things. Seriously, do NOT bother taking the tests again. Why add that stress, and waste that time?

Finally, please get the Fiske guide or Princeton guide and find some colleges you would like to attend that are not Ivy schools. If you think those are the only schools worth aiming for, you are bound to be disappointed, as many a valedictorian and 2400 SAT and 36 ACT is every single year. Look at some of incredible LACs, Honors colleges, state flagships, etc… With your stats, you might be looking at huge scholarships at colleges you will probably be very happy at. Focus your remaining school time on doing well at things you enjoy, and for the love of Pete, don’t retake your tests. Good luck to you.

@Lindagaf Perfectly stated. To the OP, congratulations for getting your life in order.

I agree that you should start looking at some of the absolutely fantastic colleges and universities that are more of a fit for your academic profile. You will be amazed at what is out there. Neither of my kids went to “ivy” colleges but they both got wonderful educations. had great college experiences, and moved towards where they wanted to be in life – neither one would trade their college experience for an Ivy degree. So broaden your horizons, find schools that will work for you, and continue moving forward in life.

The important thing is that you’re improving. Not to mention, you could always spin the ADHD into an amazing essay about struggle, improvement, etc. Just keep trying your damnedest.

The Ivy League schools are each quite different. Which ones are you interested in, and why?

I suspect you would do well at an academically rigorous school with small classes and lots of support for students. Some might view this as trading “prestige” for a more personalized college experience, but that’s not especially the case. Most, if not all, of the top-50 or 60 LACs have amazing faculty, challenging academics, and plenty of 34 or 35 ACT students. You do yourself a disservice if you focus on only the top 8 or 9 US universities.