^^ THIS. So many times, this. Thank you @twinsmama. I would add, only since my child made us worry how he would ever manage without us on that day in Aug of 10th grade when we watched him with our hearts in our throats walk away from us toward the new student orientation… not just able to live amicably, but live INDEPENDENTLY. To navigate the “adulting” required of college students. To advocate for themselves, to be able to talk confidently with their professors and advisors on their own right from the start, to speak up in class and take the lead in group projects, to do laundry and set an alarm, and write a first draft, and know what foods make them feel good and which (too much sugar/junk) make them feel crappy, and go to the gym and find a pick-up basketball game when you know no one on the court. THAT’S what our son gained, and it is exactly what I had hoped for. And he learned it all at BS.