<p>I think Jolynne is a lawyer if I am not mistaken.</p>
<p>Well, if she isn’t, she should be. 
Hopefully also a children’s advocate, as well.</p>
<p>Yes, and we love her just the same!</p>
<p>Aw, thanks!!! Yes (sigh) can’t resist a good argument or stirring one up. 
My husband doesn’t not necessarily appreciate this quality (hence, good to get it out on CC rather than at home!!!). </p>
<p>PS poetgrl – my dream law job – international children’s rights advocate – you nailed it. Possibly some day… :-)</p>
<p>Well, I think that’s fantastic! and relatively unsurprising ;)</p>
<p>Well, Jolynne, I shall try to be at my very best if should disagree on some other issue in the future!
My cousin is an atty, too. He’s heard about all the jokes. The one he liked the best: Supposedly there is an ancient Chinese curse; “May your life be filled with lawyers.”
For me personally, in the landlord business I have dealings with attorneys all too frequently. Not intended as an insult by any means; I just mean that I wish my business would run smoother and that I would not need the service of an attorney.</p>
<p>younghoss - you hold up very well with your arguments too. I am sure you are not an easy client.</p>
<p>Yes, younghoss, it’s always fun to debate w/someone who’s enthusiastic and committed to their views. :-)</p>
<p>conflictedmom - </p>
<p>It sounds like your D has come to a realization about her actions. My suggestion to you is to not mess it up for her by bailing her out. I’m guessing that at some point, she’ll come to you with a sob story about her finances. I suggest you and her go over her budget and determine what can be cut from it and ways to increase income. Maybe an additional roommate is in order or used versus new is the choice. Keep in mind that writing a check is not a solution. I’m not opposed to sending an occasional check for a meal out though. She needs to realize she can recover from bad choices on her own or at least realize the consequences of them.</p>
<p>akck - you’ll be happy to know (‘happy’ is a relative term) that I have zero intention of “bailing her out” and she knows better than to try to get me to (she has known me her whole life). I don’t throw ultimatums around (in fact I think this is her very first) but when I have said “no” she learned that I meant “no”, not maybe, not we’ll see. I’m actually a very reasonable person who feels taken advantage of. But nope, bailing her out…ain’t gonna happen. I like what Dr. Phil says, “you don’t solve money issues with money”. My D is very resourceful, and always has been, I am not worried about her (financially) in the slightest. She has been verrrrry quiet this week. Probably stewing. That’s fine with me, I’ve been ruminating a lot this week too.</p>