<p>So, I dated this guy last summer, but we broke off since I was going to college half the country away from him. Anyway, we both wanted to hang out a few days ago and did. I had an awesome time with him and he was real nice. Everything was very casual, just as friends…but then, at his house we went from sitting a foot apart to well getting real hot and heavy and so forth.</p>
<p>I thought afterwords, on my drive home, man we moved faster than I thought we would. Then today when we were on the phone he said, “Yeah, I think we moved a bit too fast that night.” I agreed. Anyway, what I’m wondering is from a guy’s perspective why a guy would say that.</p>
<p>Does that mean he cares about me, and wants more of a relationship then just passion?</p>
<p>of is it a bad thing that he said that?</p>
<p>I do think he really likes me and he wants to hang out again…anyway…?</p>
<p>He doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression and think that making out with him meant anything more to him than a good time of jollies for him… IOW, he’s not interested in anything more just because he felt you up, and he’s hoping you get it.</p>
<p>This is my conjecture. Take it however you like (I’ll take no offense if it’s a grain of salt)</p>
<p>Honestly, I think by “Taking it too fast” he temporary lost any thought of rationality and just let impulse take over during that moment. While he does still have a thing for you, he realizes that a relationship such as this won’t work out.</p>
<p>I know it’ll be hard, but you really should try and cut it off as well, cause long distance relations during college really damped the atmosphere…</p>
<p>Again, take it as you will, but if I was in his situation, that’s what I would think…</p>
<p>It means he isn’t in to you like that, but doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and/or doesn’t want to look like a jerk for feeling you up when he was thinking with his other head.</p>
<p>Does anyone not bow down to their hormone levels?</p>
<p>Some people actually don’t want to move as fast as their bodies can take them. Just last week I told my girlfriend I didn’t feel comfortable moving fast in our relationship.</p>
<p>I don’t think you should be asking a forum for relationship advice, because it’ll never work out. Just hang out with him and see how he feels. If he looks like he’s not having a good time, then you know how he feels. If he’s having a great time, he just doesn’t want to move so fast. It may be statistically abnormal, but don’t dwell on it.</p>
<p>how old are you? How old is your g/f? You’ve already labeled her your girlfriend, so what’s the problem? If you don’t jump on it, she may get bored… and you’ll be played… unless, of course, she’s homely.</p>
<p>And you don’t get bored if you move “too fast.” Clearly you’ve never had sex if you think you can get bored of it (certainly it can be bad…but it has nothing to do with going “too fast”…good sex is good sex).</p>