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<p>I think part of the problem here is that you are lumping “your kids” together. I just put twins through the process. While there were certainly schools I thought would be of interest to both of them, I didn’t start with any assumption that they “belonged” at an LAC or “belonged” at a larger university. They are different people with different personalities and what makes one tick is not what makes the other tick. As it so happens, S is at a top 20 university that is probably 4x the size of D’s top 20 LAC. That’s fine - they are different. I would strongly urge you to get out of thinking of them as “the kids” as in - what one has to do, the other has to do.</p>