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<p>It’s true that not all grandparents who offer money will also offer opinions. But the OP started this thread because she was getting opinions from “everyone.” Sometimes there’s a “family college” or there can be a college rivalry within the family. These are some of the pressures that a high school student can feel, from grandparents or others. The OP doesn’t tell us that the grandparents are giving their opinions, but it seems the rest of the family has already entered the fray.</p>
<p>Paying for someone’s glasses or shoes isn’t quite the same thing as paying for someone’s college. Many people are emotionally invested in their alma maters, or invested in their descendents going to a famous or prestigious college. If those people are helping to foot the bill, it’s hard to tell them they can’t express an opinion.</p>