When parents and student do not agree on the college

As a parent of an ASD child, our college choices were based on where we felt we would get the best support. My son is over 1000 miles away, but getting support with a school that has a wonderful program for ASD’s. We joke that his computer is his first love, but he is managing to do fine, abet a few bumps here and there. If he had gotten into our State Flagship which would have saved us tons of money, he would have been close to home but would not have made it past his first semester. There was another state school near by, and that was our backup plan, but so far he is doing fine. BUT and I say bit BUT, its not about the distance, but more about the support he is receiving . Will this LAC provide support for him. How is the DSS office? Those are things that you and your husband need to get on board with. How is it with the more local school?