"The new Netflix film stars Angela Bassett, Patricia Arquette and Felicity Huffman as three best friends whose sons have grown up — all the way up — together. As the three moms celebrate Mother’s Day with each other rather than with their kids, they decide that they’ve had enough.
‘Their sons are not connecting with them,’ Angela Bassett tells NPR. ‘They’re not sending flowers; they’re not giving them a call.’ …
Movie review.
Not really a movie review, more of an interview with Angela Bassett.
I don’t think a young adult’s failure to acknowledge Mother’s Day is much of an indication of anything, and it seems a surprise multi-day visit to one’s young adult child could backfire.
My grown kids both live in the Western part of our country, and I live on the East Coast.
If I showed up at either of their homes unexpectedly, they would think I had lost my mind. They would also be very annoyed. And they would be right.
If I showed unannounced at Roth of my kids’ places, they could very well be elsewhere—in the US or abroad. I don’t really feel they OWE me homage and they do keep in touch as their whims and schedules allow. We are content with our level if connection. Sometimes they choose to join us on trips, which is great as well.
They still are always home with us for Christmas and some time pre & post. That makes all of us and the beloved extended family very happy.
My in laws have showed up unannounced and I can’t even begin to describe how rude it is.
First, it doesn’t give us any time to prepare the house.
Second, they expect us to drop everything and entertain them.
Third, sometimes we have plans and, y’know, aren’t there or we’re there with other people.
My dad sometimes forgets to tell us he’s coming down but he doesn’t care what the house looks like and doesn’t care if he sees us. He goes down to my parents’ guest room (yes they have their own since they’re down here enough) and usually just comes by to sleep since he’s down here doing whatever it is he came down state for.
I love my parents and am very close to them but I’d never just show up at their house unannounced. They have a very small house and it’s possible they have guests and I’d have nowhere to sleep. Oh, and its rude.
My in laws tell me repeatedly that I’m welcome whenever and don’t need to give them a head’s up but I always do and I always will.
We don’t celebrate mothers day in my family. We think these types of holidays are ridiculous. My MIL does and for three years in a row has thrown a fit because of x, y, and z not being exactly what she wanted. This year, all the daughters in law made sure to have something else to do on that day so we weren’t with her.
Sorry. Everything about this interview is ridiculous. Don’t you want to raise independent adults? Yeah it sucks that people don’t call but my generation is, on the whole, far busier than our parents’ was and we never really get to be off the clock. Plus, we just don’t really like phone calls… but phones are a two way street.
I would never gauge my kids’ love for me on whether or not they fawned over me on a Hallmark holiday … or my birthday … or any other day that they are “supposed” to contact/see me. I am fortunate that they like their parents, and they enjoy being with us when they can be with us. We enjoy being with them when they can be with us (and to be honest, when we can be with them). We are a family that has no expectations of each other. We love each other and enjoy each other’s company … whenever we are together.
And I would NEVER drop in on my kids unannounced. They don’t even drop in on us unannounced now that they have flown the nest. S lives 5 minutes away & has his packages sent to our house (rather than having them sit outside his townhouse door). He swings by often to pick them up, and he always calls or texts first.
Once in a while I wonder if we are wrong for being that way, because I know families that are always together, always in & out of each other’s houses without advance warning … but H, D, S and I are all comfortable with the way we do things, so there is my answer.
If you are different, though, to each their own.