<p>Aargh…when will I ever learn not to bother arguing with teenagers? Got involved in posting on a thread on one of the college forums. Never going there again…</p>
<p>Now you are going to get accused of not taking teenagers seriously just because they aren’t as old as you. Just because they’re young doesn’t mean that you know more than them you know!</p>
<p>(Sarcasm just doesn’t work on the Web, does it?)</p>
<p>Adults are just as worse.</p>
<p>Not our fault that we’re strapping and bursting with intelligence.</p>
<p>I’m walking into the lion’s den, aren’t I?</p>
<p>Bring it.</p>
<p>I’m amazed at how nasty they are to each other.</p>
<p>This generation must be developing very thick skins. I wonder whether that will serve them well.</p>
<p>Also, they can’t spell worth a damn.</p>
<p>I no longer leave the comfort of the parents forum. I like the threads here that are helpful, educational, funny, thoughtful, insightful, and caring. </p>
<p>It’s not worth wasting my time or emotional energy to be verbally (editorially?, writtenly?) assaulted by kids with no manners.</p>
<p>I must say, I’m kind of offended as a teenager by all the generalizations going on in this thread. We’re not all monsters, you know…and you were teenagers once too I’m sure.</p>
<p>^^aww don’t misunderstand. Parents on these forums love teenagers, and just vent occasionally to recharge and show them the love once again.</p>
<p>In context, the OP had just fallen back in here recovering from some kind of foray into the rough-and-tumble cafes the students populate. She needed a hug, that’s all.</p>
<p>Conversely, I sometimes feel s good when teens wander into the parent cafe. It reminds me of when my kids, as very young people, would come into our bedroom late at night just to chat at our bedfeet in the darkness. Then sometimes a sibling would join them, and they’d even start to squabble. But they wanted to be safe in the parents’ bedroom.</p>
<p>That’s what it feels like to me when students actually begin disagreeing with each other on the Parents Forum. We never kick them out, either. </p>
<p>There are also some kids who so much need to hear the parents’ perspective. In return, I love reading their posts here. I won’t name them because I wouldn’t want to leave anyone out, but you all know a few. I really love when they check in.</p>
<p>But most student posters really don’t like us coming onto their turf. They will either ignore or bite your head off if you weigh in with anything that hints of judgment. </p>
<p>Last year I put some energy into counseling for the SAT prep site regarding how to bring up the writing essays from 8-land to 10-12-land. That was time well-spent, and I got some nice thank-you’s when scores came out. I advised on-line about how to connect their thesis with the supporting evidence, how many examples to choose and so on. This wasn’t reading essays offline, which is also another very helpful thing other parents do at this time of year, especially give a gut reaction from a stranger.
The kids on SAT Prep are really looking for help to improve, so that’s very nice. </p>
<p>So interesting. I wonder when the Parent Forum began, and why…</p>
<p>Awww, that was an awesome post. ^_^</p>
<p>I don’t think I ever did the whole going into my parents’ bedroom, but I do consider my mom my best friend and I talk to her about all kinds of stuff, all the time. And I do understand what you mean…I think I misunderstood. Sorry if I offended anyone!!</p>
<p>HGFM, you’re the best thing going. What you think might offend someone is like a piece of chocolate with a little bitty break in it.</p>
<p>Awwww.</p>
<p>Now I want some chocolate. Way to go.</p>
<p>My observations. Kids on the admissions boards can be nasty. There are some posters who have bloated egos, there are some who attack and trash anyone “less than Ivy-calibre”, there are some who ask the same questions over and over, there are some who put fake stuff on their applications. Kids who have the gut to venture into the parents’ territories of the CC boards and who stick around here are the ones I have respect for. HGFM, you are one of them.</p>
<p>ebeeeee, my sympathies for whatever hurts my (and I use this next term very loosely ;)) compatriots might have visited upon you. I took a read through the thread I suspect you were talking about, and the only comment I have is that there is no one more offensively blunt or persistent than someone with an ax to grind (teenager or not).</p>
<p>As for the generalizations about teenagers, just remember: this is the Internet. The parents’ subforum here is the single most civilized place I’ve ever encountered anywhere online, by far - and I’ve been around quite a number of different places. Brazen disagreements, personal insults and the like are unfortunately par for the course online - and are spewed almost equally by people of all ages. You should all take a look at the comments on the more contentious Youtube videos, to get an idea of just what a beacon of civilized discourse this is in comparison. ;)</p>
<p>The nasty ones–kids and adults–are mostly insecure. They’re uncomfortable with themselves and that makes them uncomfortable to be around. My 2 cents diagnosis. I do venture over to College Search occasionaly but it gets edgy real fast.</p>
<p>Yeah, I object to that! We’re not monsters, we just have more dramatic hormone fluctuations that manifest themselves in mood swings, anger, depression, belligerence, insecurities, head-biting, defensiveness, and other symptoms that may be perceived as “mannerless behavior.”</p>
<p>Put a bunch of these hormone-fluctuation-crazed teenagers together on a blog and I’m surprised it doesn’t get more nasty…</p>
<p>Sincerely, a teenager.</p>
<p>hmmm…</p>
<p>Manners are meant to smooth over problems such as mood swings, etc… They are not something one can put on or off depending on one’s mood or circumstances.</p>
<p>“(…)neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.”</p>
<p>Okay all of you simmer down. Yes I needed a hug…I was extremely frustrated by a very negative student who is attending the school my son attends. For whatever reason this kid is unhappy at that school and continues to post fairly venomous posts about what an awful place it is on the forum for that school.
I have tried to present another point of view as I know LOTS of kids who love the school. This kid continues to persist with his anger and I was frustrated.
If any of the teenagers on this board are taking it personally, I apologize.
If you really want more of the drama, do as 1of42 did and look at the thread by looking at my posts.<br>
I was just fed up and frustrated with this one kid. Sorry all.</p>
<p>For what it’s worth, I didn’t really get the feeling you were insinuating all teenagers were monsters. Just because someone says one person in a very specific instance ticked them off, doesn’t mean they hate all people who fall into that category automatically. Or at least by default, most of the people here are paying the bills for people who fall in that category…it would suck a lot if they also hated them.</p>
<p>After reading Ebeeee’s post, I dipped into “High School Life” and posted in response to a student’s plea for help on getting teacher’s recommendations. I don’t know how that went because when I checked the thread this morning it had been deleted. It’s probably just a sign from The Moderators that I should stick to the parents’ forums.</p>