When you don't fit

Parents Forum
#1

<p>I don't fit the stats. I lefts school the moment I turned 18 and only graduated with encouragement (absent more than 50% of the year - I moved accross country) 3.7 ish weighted and a few mediocre Ap's (3).</p>

<p>Where do I fit in? I'm none of your daughters even though my sister was. She was an Ivy admit in 1991 of 1290 SAT and distinguished athlete (non recruit).</p>

<p>I saw the SAT in the 10th grade with no prep.... no retake but almost a decade of work experience. (1090)</p>

<p>What would you say (other than if you thought of me as a bad influence) if you knew me...</p>

<p>Thank you parents (almost of my own age) for your opinions.</p>

<p>G</p>

#2

<p>I am not sure how to respond because all that you have told us are your stats. Other than that, I don't know anything about you.</p>

<p>I don't know if you are ethical, compassionate, a good friend, thoughtful, funny, creative, hard working, a good conversationalist, a good listener, a person who cares about others and tries to make the world a better place.</p>

<p>When it comes to my friends and my kids, what's most important about them is not their gpa and SATs and whether they can get into an Ivy. What's important about them are the things that I mentioned in the second paragraph.</p>

<p>A person could have 2400 board scores, straight As in AP courses, be Ivy-bound and be narcissistic, unethical, greedy and selfish. I would consider that type of person to be a bad influence, and I wouldn't want them for a friend. If such a person were my kid, I would be hanging my head wondering where I went wrong.</p>

#3

<p>I guess we're supposed to say you must be a bad scary person because you're SAT's are average?? Isn't the national avg SAT 1000? Omigosh, you're not going to an ivy school, just like 95% of the students?</p>

<p>I don't know the SAT's of any of my friends and only a few of my kids friends. The SAT is a test and that's all it is.</p>

<p>Maybe we should start a thread about what traits make up the most desireable person instead of what scores make the most desireable college applicant.</p>

#4

<p>Are you thinking of college now? I get the feeling many colleges are welcoming older students with some life/work experience.
Don't know the details of any, but Smith had a great brochure and a great-sounding program for "older" women students, tailored to their needs.</p>

#5

<p>I believe Sweet Briar College in Virginia offers a similar program for adult students:</p>

<pre><code> http://www.sbc.edu/admissions/adult.html?adult
</code></pre>

#6

<p>I went to school a little later in life, I missed about 100 days in my senior year, hated every minute of that useless education, and at age 42 I still feel that way about high school. but I went to community college, got some grades, and went on to nursing school. I don't truly know what your question is, but adult learners are much different that kids. they are paying for their education and therefore usually take it much more seriously, life experience, you know what you want to do. if you are still a bad a$$, don't go and be disruptive to those that want to learn. if you are truly interested in being educated, just apply. statistics from 20 years ago truly won't be weighted too heavily at this point.</p>

#7

<p>I guess I am also confused about what you are looking for. I didn't even go to high school my senior year--I was busy working and trying to support myself. I got my GED and I'm currently going to community college part time while working full time + at a steady career--and I'll be transferring to go to school full time and get my bachelors. I plan on going to grad school as well.</p>

<p>I don't think that anyone is ever too old to go to school. I've had students in some of my classes who were well into their 60's and 70's who decided that they wanted to go back to school just to learn something. I think I will probably be one of those students.</p>

<p>I also don't believe that if someone did poorly in highschool they have no hope of going to college--that simply isn't true. It may be more difficult, but if it is important enough you'll be able to do it.</p>

#8

<p>It might also help to truly evaluate why you want to attend college. If education is the priority then I'm sure you will do better than high school, since it appears you were not at your best academically at that time. I know some twenty-somethings that wish to return or attend the first time to live what they think they missed. I believe that is a very bad and expensive idea. But when you really want something for the right reasons...you can make it happen.</p>