And because I don’t want to leave this thread with such negativity, I will add something more positive here. I am currently sitting next to my friend with a bottle of wine between us and now we are talking about how much we appreciate each other. Our girls are eating pizza and cupcakes and watching an animated movie and laughing. Yes, they are seniors…it’s nice they still enjoy simple things. There is no competition between us, only love and support. And I am so proud of her amazing daughter (and mine!).
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What a wonderful friendship and what wonderful daughters.
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A post was split to a new thread: Need help after no acceptances
Years ago but friend was SO mad that another friend’s kid got admitted while her kid was waitlisted (and her kid had higher stats). I kept pointing out the other kid applied to a REALLY open major with like NO competition and that the specific major was probably a shoo-in. Did her kid want that major? Nope! Just gonna be mad.
Just so many factors go into admissions–it’s not only grades and scores.
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Came back to say…one friend’s daughter ended up getting off WL at her top choice school over the summer and the other was subsequently admitted to a highly competitive program at her school and both are super happy where they ended up! What a stressful time it was just a few months ago and now everything is great for both. It all works out. 
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Aw, that’s great!
Something that may come up in this year is that high school classmates will have very different outlooks and experiences during their first year of college. Some kids may struggle making friends and aren’t having a good time at school. Other kids may be having the time of their lives. Some may be at the school that was their first choice, and they’re having a bit of a crisis as it’s not what they thought it would be.
Balancing equanimity, tact, and support to one another during the first year can be tricky at times, and it can be helpful to talk with kids about expectations/reality, how their friends are doing, and that it’s normal to have good times and tough times, it’s normal to not have best friends right away, and there is a lot of change and growth in the first year that sometimes can be messy, too.
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When my younger daughter got in early action to Umich many of my friends kids were upset that DD who was in all “ regular” classes got in when they who were in honors and AP classes did not. . DD was like PLEASE let them know its because Nursing is easier to get into. One of my friends said it actually did make her son feel better to hear that.
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That is a great point, and not a negative. Acceptance rates for different programs vary wildly. Families can stand to act with some grace and perspective.
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