OP, this is the first I’ve read of your posts and I want to say that you seem to be handling a lot of stress, from health and family, with a strength that is unusual in a young person. Further, you’re responding to feedback with grace, which can be a hard thing to do. So congratulations.
I want to make just two points. First, for future apps, one thing that schools are really looking for, when they ask about overcoming adversity, is whether you have the inner resources to get through what EVERY student goes through when they hit college – no matter how physically and emotionally healthy they seem, they experience for the first time being not the smartest person in their class. They must, for the first time, spend a lot of time on classwork. Some students collapse under it.
And second, I’ve been reading this recent thread and it’s so interesting to me to hear people’s impressions of high-acceptance-rate schools. I know you can’t visit a lot of places, but this thread is short and it might give you some ideas.
Know that you’re in my thoughts through this process! I don’t know how kids today do it.
[Edited to add] I’m suggesting this thread, instead of the lower-percentage one that’s linked in it, because it seems like these schools might have later application dates and possibly more merit money, which might sway your parents even though they told you not to worry about money. Not because I think you need a high acceptance rate school!