At D’s wedding several months ago, S had the photographer take some pictures of him specifically to use for dating sites. They’re pretty good. No idea if its working. Keeping my fingers crossed. S is pretty tight-lipped about his relationships.
D is engaged to a man she met on OKCupid. She rejected 10 or 12 ‘candidates’ after one or two dates from that site. S is dating a girl he met on Tinder. It’s not just a hook up site.
My D, who is pretty shy, has had some luck with OKCupid and Tinder. My good friend’s daughter is engaged to a guy she met from the same area in Northern VA where she works, but they met at a bar in Australia!
The book Modern Romance, by Aziz Ansari, is a really interesting and entertaining look at how and where people like our parents used to meet, and how and why that’s changed dramatically.
Some people are so down/negative on dating sites. I never understand why it’s “better” or more “safe” to meet a guy/girl in a bar, at a club, a party, whatever!
Speaking of safe, my son told me that on one of his Tinder dates, the girl, before she got in his car, asked to take a picture of his car and license plate, which she sent to a friend who was keeping tabs on her during the date.
Who knows? Not something son would divulge. Knowing him doubt he has dates. Working with mostly men in CS tech makes it hard to meet women peers after college (or in college either). All we can do is see what happens. Kid is savvy enough to use online resources when/if he wants to. We parents met in our 30’s so not holding my breath.
Which dating site is it where you swipe? I think my S and his new bride met on that one. Their wedding favors were can coozies that said “Love at first Swipe” on one side and their names and wedding date on the other side.
Both of mine met their partners online and although D1 and bf initially saw parallels in their experiences, it turned out there were many more. Uncanny.
A few years ago, there was a thread about adults who’d met partners online.
@musicmom1215, it is Tinder where they swipe.
LOL–my mother had been widowed for 10 years (left at 40 with 5 kids in 1960) .
She filled out paperwork in 1970 and mailed it into Indianapolis, Indiana.
She met her 2nd husband through this “dating site”!
We were forbidden to tell anyone how they actually met.
He was from a town 2 hours from my University and my mother was 2 hours the other way
from my university. My GF and I were the chaperones and we had a few really good meals with
them as they navigated their new dating status.
Yes, it was weird but the food so welcomed. We were brats and order really expensive things.
Thank you all! I’m just going to tell him there was a discussion about online dating apps and mention some of these names. He had to work very hard in college. He’s not a great student, but slogged his way through to a decent gpa by passing on a lot of social stuff. Love the Meetup idea. I’ll mention this as well, but try to sound uninterested
I think he should work on doing things with people (not just potential dates - which the dating apps might help with). He should try and socialize with co-workers, neighbors, go to local events for something that interests him (even if it is at the local gaming store), etc. He should participate in events sponsored by his work, alumni association, whatever he can find. It is difficult but important for young people to develop a community when they are out on their own.