Where do you stand on feminism?

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<p>I personally think there is a crisis of masculinity because so many fathers do not live with their children and influence their day-to-day lives. Paying child support and taking your children to a ballgame or Chuckie Cheese’s a few times a year does not cut it. I have the highest respect for my brother-in-law, who split custody with his ex-wife 50-50. He was actually the better parent because he tried to impose some order, predictability and structure in their lives (the ex wife fed them potato chips and mac chee for dinner and went to bed at 8 p.m. every night --depression–so obviously the homework did not get done, let alone the laundry.</p>

<p>We have a problem in part because we do not acknowledge domestic work as time-consuming and important. </p>

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How do divorced, non-custodial fathers address housework?</p>

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<p>Well, feminism has certainly been successful achieving dominance for women in most areas of family law. It is time for men to step up and fight for equality.</p>

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<p>Men should fight for shared custody. No man should walk away from his kids. </p>

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<p>If feminism was about equality, then women would also be fighting for shared custody, or an equal chance of sole custody.</p>

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<p>I think that’s silly. My husband believes in equal rights for women, but he isn’t involved in the cause. He supports it, sure, by talking in that way. I completely support men’s rights as fathers. In fact, I think women who grow up with strong relationships with their fathers are stronger women. My husband has been an amazing father. If something had ever happened between us and we had had the misfortune to divorce, I would have wanted him to have equal custody. And, in fact, I think just like states have laws that automatically divide the property in half, there should be an automatic default to equal custody barring abuse on the part of either parent, and then it should be whatever is in the best interest of the child.</p>

<p>All that said, until women have equal rights, I have no intention of making shared custody one of my top issues. We have other issues. But, I would never argue against and would always argue for, shared custody.</p>

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In the 70s, I knew folks supporting families on minimum wage jobs. Is this possible now?
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<p>The minimum wage for much of the 70s was below 2.00 an hour. I don’t think there were many parents supporting families on that one income. Rents alone would eat the entire take home pay. </p>

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Thought I’d revive this thread. Anyone hoping for a Clinton/ Fiorina battle?

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