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<p>[Where</a> Have the Good Men Gone? - WSJ.com](<a href=“http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704409004576146321725889448.html#articleTabs%3Darticle]Where”>http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704409004576146321725889448.html#articleTabs%3Darticle)</p>
<p>This article drew many responses from men.</p>
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<p>Since I have three sons I would say they are looking for good woman. Sometimes I think they are so busy that maybe they need woman who will find them. I have heard my sons say that many of the woman they meet are still interested in “hooking Up” (whatever that means) and not in anything real. I have noticed that even though my sons are young they really want meaningful relationships. They are not interested in playing around with several woman…just one woman at a time. I kept telling them that college was the place where they would see more young woman then anywhere else but they either werent ready or they just found it to be too much of a hook up scene. Now they want real…someone to share their lives with.</p>
<p>Maybe some of the good men are imaginary?</p>
<p>I have 3 sons who went to good schools and have good jobs . None have a serious girlfriend ,though they would like to .</p>
<p>Some of the good men are sharing their lives with other good men.</p>
<p>Boy, Rupert Murdoch is turning the Wall Street Journal into a tabloid rag. Stupid article, IMO. With longevity increasing and many students getting advanced degrees, why is it surprising that many men (or women) arent settling down at 20? Many want to get their educations completed and careers established before making other long term commitments. Thats ok by me.</p>
<p>I’ve seen variations of this article in lots of places recently. I think a book is being sold.</p>
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Yup-- prepublication book hype.</p>
<p>I’ll tell you what, though. This topic keeps me up at night. It makes me wonder if my son is going to be a messy, forgetful 13 year-old forever, even when he’s fully grown.</p>
<p>Probably. As Maya Angelou says, “Most people never grow up. They just find parking spaces.”</p>
<p>Respectfully disagree. Once those frontal lobes finish myelinating they seem to go from being impulsive and challenging to wonderfully thoughtful human beings. Well, for the mostpart.</p>
<p>Iraq and Afghanistan, and good women too. Here’s hoping the “War on Terror Veterans” take their rightful place in our nation’s future leadership.</p>
<p>"Respectfully disagree. Once those frontal lobes finish myelinating they seem to go from being impulsive and challenging to wonderfully thoughtful human beings. "</p>
<p>The latest scientific evidence is precisely the opposite. Those with more fully myelinated frontal lobes are more likely to be impulsive, and more likely to take risks. You’ve fallen for the eleven-teen and twelve-teen lobby.</p>
<p>Shouldn’t surprise anyone. Look at 45-65 year old men.</p>
<p>I dont believe that is correct mini. Perhaps they are begining to demyelinate as they age, or have the impact of injuries, illnesses or substance use.</p>
<p>Please tell me you are not trying to cite Daniel Amen’s stuff. That guy has no research to support his expansive interpretations of SPECT scans. Looks pretty, but has no data to support it.</p>
<p>I have a D, so can only go by D’s last three boyfriends. All of them are fun loving but have a definite seriousness of purpose. One is now a hard working designer, one finishing his degree in Nuclear Physics, with and eye on becoming an Oncologist and the latest a concert pianist. I think it’s interesting that many of the examples used in the article are from popular media. Lesson here:don’t base your world view on bad films and television. There are PLENTY of fantastic young men out there. (thanks to you moms!)</p>
<p>And me?, my “good man” is at home waiting for the dishwasher repairman.</p>
<p>Nope. Dr. Gregory Burns - [Are</a> the Brains of Reckless Teens More Mature Than Those of Their Prudent Peers?: Scientific American](<a href=“Are the Brains of Reckless Teens More Mature Than Those of Their Prudent Peers? - Scientific American”>Are the Brains of Reckless Teens More Mature Than Those of Their Prudent Peers? - Scientific American)</p>
<p>What young people lack is EXPERIENCE, so that what looks reckless to older folks (who threaten nuclear war, build weapons of mass destruction, invade sovereign nations, beat up children and women, and drink themselves to death) may not look so reckless to them.</p>
<p>That article is talking about teens. We are talking about adults. I will read the article later when time allows, but while this may present an interesting theory/observation/correlation, I seriously doubt it will severly challenge the established research in this field.</p>
<p>S1 is 25, a military officer. It pretty much consumes his life at this point. He will prob. deploy sometime this year. He says he has too much to do right now to even think about a gf. He doesn’t think it’s the right time to ask a girl to put up with his job responsibilities/dangers. He is very responsible…has been self reliant since going off to college…just bought a house recently. I’m happy that he is smart enough to recognize that he’s not ready to commit to a relationship at this juncture in his life. He’s a really “good man” just not ready.</p>
<p>The men in my life–those related to me & those married in or otherwise attached are all pretty good in my assessment. My S is still looking for his 1st serious GF at age 24 as well. He did have a good summer romance once a few years back but that’s about it. He IS interested and wondering where the good women are. D has not yet done any serious dating, so not sure if she’s had trouble finding “good men” or not yet.</p>